Why Does He Keep Me Around If He Doesn’t Want A Relationship?
The guy who said he wants you, but then doesn’t want you. Yeah… it’s confusing af. As a guy just thinking about it and explaining this to you stresses me out. But I gotta do it for you so you get an idea of what’s going on in his mind. He better not be a Libra. It just goes downhill from there. Kid the Libras. I know it’s painful to just be around him knowing he doesn’t want anything more. But let me see if I can help you understand him a little bit more. So, here are 10 reasons why he’s causing you to stress and asking the question, “Why does he keep me around if he doesn’t want a relationship?”
1. He likes you but not in a romantic way
A lot of people are blinded by this because they end up liking a person a lot and the other person just don’t see them the same. I guess that’s why they say love is blind or maybe that was something else. But anyway, it could simply be that you aren’t their cup of tea, or that he’s a player. I mean, they could be attracted to you like physically or just like spending time with you or just like you for you. But when it comes to something romantic, they just don’t have that spark with you or see you as “the one.” But it’s okay, you’re strong though.
2. He’s super shy and scared right now
This could also be the case. You know how shy guys are. They could take forever to gather the confidence to get things done. He may be planning to make a move, but just can’t seem to find a perfect time. You know how it goes. It doesn’t go at all. Perhaps he’s overthinking everything and has like 100 other potential outcome that could lead you into saying, “no.” Or he could be simply nervous and scare because this whole relationship thing is relatively new for him and he just wants to take his time. Aww isn’t that cute.
3. He just got out of a relationship
If this is the case, don’t try to rush it. Let him have his me time and let him heal. After all, he’s emotionally damaged right now especially if his last relationship was a serious one. So, don’t just throw yourself onto him and be like, “take me take me.” You don’t want to be a rebound. He’s mind is probably not in the right place, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be by his side and cheer him up and be a supportive friend.
4. He doesn’t want to lose a friend
Speaking of friends, I see this a lot. He could be a good friend of yours or maybe even a best friend and because you both are friends with a close relationship it makes it super difficult to ask you out because in his mind, he’s thinking that if he gets rejected, then things will just be awkward and weird after that. This happens a lot! The poor guy simply doesn’t know what to do and because he doesn’t want to ruin the friendship he decides to not risk it and just stay friends. Damn, I smell regrets.
5. He has a few internal issues that he hasn’t resolved, yet
I know this is vague but everyone is different. So, don’t take it out on yourself and think that you’re not attractive, smart, or funny enough for him. He could have some personal issues with other relationships in the past. Or a traumatic event happened when he was younger and still couldn’t get over it. Or that he’s super insecure about himself. It could be anything. So, let him focus on himself and when the right time comes, he might one day be willing to put himself out there… But that is if you’re willing to wait.
6. Your goals and values are different from his
This could be a major turn off if your goals and values are like the total opposite of his. And that’s okay, there’s nothing to stress about here. The reason why he still keeps you around is because you’re probably easy to talk to or cool to hang out. Again, you can see this as just friend. I mean it’s better to have a friend than to not have a friend at all. I’m just saying.
7. He wants to keep his options open
What does that even mean though? I get that a lot. You know how sometimes you go shopping and you find a deal like a 10% off, but you’re not in a rush to buy it and you have a gut feeling that in another store you’ll find it cheaper, maybe like a 20% off. Yeah, that’s what he’s trying to do. Waiting it out to see if there are any more potential candidates out there. Again, he’s just being chill and waiting to see how things play out so just let him do his thing. But obviously you can still go out there to look for your own deals too. Maybe you’ll find a good clearance deal.
8. He enjoys the single life
At this point, you can’t really do much to change him. He just likes his freedom and he’s not ready to take on more responsibility. These are signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you. It’s all fun and games until he gets trapped. Haha. So, if you’re looking for something more and he’s not willing to ditch the single life, then your best bet is to stop pursuing something that’s not there. It’s not worth it. I know this one is tough.
9. He has commitment issues
Okay this does happen and there could be multiple reasons why it happens. He could have been in a bad relationship in the past and his past experiences weren’t that great to begin with. He could be tied down with school or work or both and just doesn’t have the time to be in a relationship. Or he could be simply scare for the future or anything long-term. If that’s the case, he should be the one fixing that problem and not you.
10. He’s using you
This one is tough to swallow. You may like him or even thought that you love him, but ask yourself, “Why you like him in the first place?” “Do you see a future with him,” and “Is he getting more out of this than you are?” If the answers are negative, then you’re wasting your time. You don’t want someone who’s using you financially, emotionally, or physically. Save all of that for someone that’s really worth it. I just want to remind you that these hoes ain’t loyal so be careful. At the end of the day, I’m sure you can find at least one guy who will like you and appreciate you for you.