Have you ever had an experience that turned out the opposite of what you had expected? These contradictory scenarios sometimes happen even with people. Sometimes we meet someone who seems one way but is actually another. This makes it tricky to figure out certain people´s true intentions. Do you feel that way or some other type of way? In the realm of relationships, a guy might behave differently towards you if he likes you so and maybe you want to know if he does like-like you. So, what are the signs that a guy is hiding his true feelings from you? Let’s check out these 10 signs.
1. He avoids deep emotional conversations.
Does the thought of emotions make this guy jump out of his shoes? Does he disappear as soon as he hears the words, “I want to talk to you”? A guy who avoids emotional conversations does so because he simply doesn´t want to be emotional. He may have feelings, but he buries them so far into his soul that retrieving them is harder than climbing Mount Everest. These emotions will only come out when he´s ready. Someone who has been emotionally hurt by someone they like or love will tend to do that.
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2. His behavior is inconsistent.
One day he´s your best friend, the next day he acts like your future boyfriend, and the following he’s missing in action. This inconsistency is related to someone who is feeling many things, and who is confused about them all. He obviously is interested in you, but there are moments when he feels he is coming off too strong, so he retreats. Typically, this guy will always come back sooner or later to repeat the cycle again.
3. You feel like there is an elephant in the room.
Lately, when you and this guy are hanging out, there´s an unspoken tension in the air. You both know it´s there, you both feel it´s presence, but neither of you will talk about it. What is “it” exactly? Well, it includes the feelings between both of you that haven´t been discussed. It may be just on his part, or on your part too, but it probably won´t go away until one of you speaks up.
4. He likes to ask you “What if” questions.
This guy may throw you a bunch of hypothetical questions. He may be bold and joke around to ask about how the situation would be if you two dated, or how you’d feel if you two shared some random experience together. These are all because he is contemplating taking the next step as he tries to hide his current feelings for you.
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5. He suddenly starts acting weird around you.
Sometimes when the guy catches feelings, it’s hard to start reasoning with it. The guy might start to make excuses to not hang out even when he wants to. He might start stuttering or become clumsy when you’re around because he can’t act normal when he sees you. Avoidance and shyness can be a factor when he’s trying to hide his feelings from you.
6. He cares about your opinion of him.
A guy who has feelings for you, secret or not, will care about what you think of him. He´ll ask your opinion on all aspects of his life, and he´ll be on the lookout for any comments you may have. In fact, he´ll remember these comments and bring them up later on. For instance, a good telltale sign to see if he’s hiding his true feelings from you is that if you mention how you like guys with long hair and he tries to grow it out, then he totally likes you.
7. He has had a negative relationship experience in the past.
Sometimes, we might have an ex-baggage. If this guy has come out of a bad relationship, especially if it´s recent, don´t expect him to act on any of his feelings for you anytime soon. He might be still processing his last relationship, and he´ll need some reassurance that you are different before he moves forward.
8. Your life is more interesting to him than his favorite movie.
A guy who is hiding his feelings from you will take some interest in your life, no matter what. He wants to know more about you. In fact, he might befriend you first and then slowly start making moves towards you. So, then he doesn’t come out as a total creep. So, if you’re a guy watching this, this might be a good idea, rather than going in cold.
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9. He tries to be a hero around you.
A guy acting like a hero doesn´t mean that he´s jumping off of a building trying to be superman. He may simply behave with high morals, try to be a leader in intense situations, or help you or others out when needed. Basically, he´ll be doing his best to make the best impression on you. This is one of the good signs that a guy is hiding his true feelings from you.
10. You guys have intense chemistry, but no one acts on it.
There have definitely been moments where you thought things could’ve been more intimate. Maybe you two brushed hands and you just KNEW that it was a shared romantic moment. If you´re confident he felt it too, but he didn´t act on it, it simply means he isn´t ready to let out his feelings for you just yet or that he’s scared of rejection. Give it some time and I’m sure there will be a catalyst to push things forward.
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Conclusion:
Overall, when it comes to a guy who is hiding his true feelings from you, you never know how long this could go on for. He may not be in a place to pursue a relationship right now, or like I said earlier, he might be scared. If you like him, why not give him some signs that you’re interested or give him some time. The best thing you can do is continue to be yourself and support him, as a friend if you haven’t already. Opening up random conversations is a good place to start, but enjoy the moments you have and remember to be patient. So there you have it, these are the 10 signs that a guy is hiding his true feelings from you.