Signs of a Shy Guy in Love (12 Signs)
Do you ever wish you can just read people’s mind so you can understand them better and just overall make your life easier? I know I do, but unfortunately, we can’t. When people are shy it’s even harder to tell what someone is thinking. But shy guys do have a different way to approach things and they’re more careful about it. Perhaps you start to notice something odd about him, but in a good way. Have you thought that maybe he’s falling for you? If you thought about that, he might already have a strong attraction towards you. And if you are curious of how he shows them towards you, here are 12 signs of a shy guy in love.
1. He tries to spend all of his time with you.
A shy guy doesn’t need to go out much. Most of his hobbies and interests can be done in the comfort of his own home or nearby with a small group of friends. When he has free time, he usually won’t be putting himself out there to try new or strange things. If this guy is trying to spend all of his available time with you, he isn’t just chasing a friendship. You may hear him ask you about your plans and, especially when you say you don’t have any, he will start to throw out some random ideas of things you may want to do. The shy guy isn’t the best at asking girls out on dates, so his delivery may be awkward, but you’ll soon know that he’s trying to make plans to spend more time with the girl he loves.
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2. He’s always close to you and doesn’t flinch if you touch him.
Shy guys are kind of like younger kids. I don’t mean that they’re immature or anything like that, I just mean that kids always tend to hang around the people they like most. Usually, this is mom or dad, but if a kid thinks you’re cool, they’ll be tagging along behind you the rest of the day, even if they do so in silent wonder. The shy guy is similar. He will always seem to find a way or reason to be near you, but he’ll be less obvious about it. While he may get anxious if other people become physical, you’ll never see him flinch if you happen to touch him. Having a shy guy accept physical touch from you is a huge indication that he is not only ok with it, but that he is happy to have it!
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3. He keeps his promises.
Being honest and upfront sounds like something that everyone should do, right? But we all know that this, sadly, is not the case. It’s hard to find someone who you can truly count on 100% of the time. If this shy guy seems to be it, and he would do anything to keep his promises to you, this is some top-notch dedication. We don’t find this in strangers, or acquaintances. We sometimes find this in friends, but we should ALWAYS find this in our romantic relationships. What am I saying? Well, this shy guy is certainly showing you which category he should fall in. Romance all the way. This is one of the strong signs that a shy guy is in love.
4. He remembers all of the little things.
While we are blabbing away to our friends or on a date, there is a lot that is said in vain. I hate to say it, but not everyone will care about your favorite flavor of ice cream or the feedback that you got on your big assignment. For the majority of your audience, it goes in one ear and out of the other. This has nothing to do with how interesting you are; it’s simply because we are humans with short attention spans. It is what it is. If the shy guy seems to be the opposite of this description, you’ll notice that he registers every single thing you mention. It would be creepy if it wasn’t so sweet. He may do this by mentioning something you said, or even by a physical token by buying you that favorite ice cream you mentioned so long ago.
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5. He gives you discreet gifts.
Just how I mentioned the special ice cream present, this is the type of gift that you will receive from a shy guy who is in love. He isn’t going to go for those flashy flamboyant gifts. He may replace those with some more discrete and intimate choices, like one flower that also happens to be your favorite kind. That box of chocolates, on the other hand, is switched for one bakery cupcake that has the special frosting you love but is hard find. Homemade gifts and tokens of love might be left at your door, car window, or sent to you in the mail. The shy guy in love seems to be the main character in a Nicholas Sparks book when it comes down to the gift-giving. It’s always personal and will make you say, “Awwwww, he’s so sweet.”
6. He leaves the romance to writing.
Shy guys have a way with words. We can call them the Shakespeare’s of the 21st century. Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean he speaks to you in Old English. All this means is that he is going to have a much better vocabulary than the average jock sliding into your DM’s. A shy guy in love will leave you romantic notes in all sorts of forms, from handwritten post-its, to elaborate long texts, to actual cards in the mail. It’s true – some people still do that. Romance isn’t dead! No matter which method he chooses for delivery, the shy guy’s words will be deeper than any exchange you’ve had with your exes. He will speak from the heart and with feeling, often with an impressive vocabulary to go along with this.
7. His demeanor changes if you talk about another guy.
The green-eyed monster of jealousy lives in all types of people, even for extroverts and shy guys. What is different between the two, though, is how they show their jealousy. Shy people tend to be better at containing themselves. They are generally less expressive of emotions. If the shy guy suddenly shows a shift in how he is acting because you are chatting about another guy, pay some attention. He is obviously bothered by it and feels threatened. The only reason a guy would feel this way is because he has strong feelings for you and doesn’t want to lose you to someone else. This shy guy is in love and he does not want to share. But at the same time, he can’t do much since he doesn’t want to cause a scene.
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8. Even in a group, his focus is always on you.
Every day, we face hundreds of distractions. Between things we see out of the window, conversations at school or work, and that addicting touchscreen that’s next to you right now. Staying focused is hard work. The shy guy won’t see any of these things as obstacles when it comes to focusing on what he loves most. And that’s you! You can tell that this is the case if he is always looking at you, responding to your comments in any scenario, and mentioning you in open conversation with others. If you see that this shy guy is constantly attentive to you, even in group settings amidst a ton of other people, conversations and distractions, then it is a clear sign that he’s got his heart on you.
9. Your advice and opinions are important to him.
In the same way that a shy guy in love will hold on to most of your words, he will also cherish the things you say. Your advice, opinions, and general comments about things will matter to him. Now, this doesn’t mean that he agrees with every word that comes out of your mouth. No, the shy guy has his own set of opinions and morals, and he may stick to it. He isn’t a pushover. But the shy guy can cherish your opinions and respect them regardless of his own thoughts. He will defend your right to think what you want, and he might even ask you to elaborate more on your thoughts, so he has a chance to get to know you in a deeper way.
10. He treats you like a priority.
This sign is one of the biggest ones, so listen close. Treating someone like a priority is the number one way to relay your love for them, and it is also the number one thing you should want to do when you are in love with someone. If they aren’t your priority, then they don’t matter. Making them your number one is basically saying that there is nothing more important to you than them.
A shy guy shows you this by always putting you first, in everything from planning the big things in his schedule to deciding where you two should eat for lunch. He’ll ask for your opinion on important things that matter to him and he will always be attentive to your needs. This would feel like it’s natural to him. The only reason why a shy guy would act this way is because he already has those intense feelings for you. This is also one of the strong signs that a shy guy is in love.
11. He opens up to you.
Trusting people is hard. People flake, people change, and people aren’t always as reliable as you hope. If the shy guy is opening up to you about his deepest thoughts, doubts, feelings, and aspirations, that is a lot of trust. Opening up to someone makes you feel vulnerable. You are trusting that person to not only listen to you but to protect any sensitive information that they share. This is a huge sign that a shy guy is either falling in love or already full-out in love with you!
12. He tells you!
Some signs are more obvious than others, and this one is it. The clearest way to know that shy guy is in love is if he straight-up tells you. This would be in an awkward, intimate moment where you know something is up. It probably won’t take you completely by surprise, as he would have shown other signs before spilling the beans, but you can never predict exactly when or how he will let you know. Your response will determine the future of the relationship, so it’s helpful to imagine this situation and your response before the moment arrives. If you like him too, it’s best to reciprocate those feelings back with the L word.
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Conclusion:
Now that you’ve got some clues to help you see if this shy guy is living in love land or not, start to observe him more the next time you two are together. If he seems to check off a lot on this list, it’s time to start exploring your own feelings. Will you be reciprocating those actions and emotions back or will you just be chillin’ like a villain and pretending nothing happened? So there you have it, 12 signs of a shy guy in love.