Is He Just A Friend Or Is He Interested
So, you have a guy friend and you’re not too sure if he’s just a friend or interested in you because you really enjoy each other’s company. And you feel like there could be more to it. But you don’t want to bluntly ask him because things could get awkward for him or maybe you if he says “no.” So when I was high school. Oh boy this is about to go downhill really quick. There were a few subtle things I did to friend-zone people and subtle things I did to girls who I was interested in, but mostly friend zoning people because… school is important. You know, trying to get those straight A’s to impress the ladies. Low key that only worked once. I’ll tell you that in another story. You can’t flex your grades like your bank account.
So, freshman year in high school. The age of discovery. Luckily, some of my eighth-grade friends carried over and landed in the same arena as me. But I was a floater. The thing with floater is that, you fit in with any group. The jocks, the nerds, the skaters, the emos, the wanna-be-gangsters, you name it. I was just trying to make peace in the middle east.
Freshman Year:
As I finally got myself situated as a freshman I started realizing things. Particularly a girl. Let’s call her Mona. Mona was a shy girl, yet outgoing. She was shy only towards strangers and random people. But once you get to know her. She could be like: “I’ll tie you up to a chair and make you watch anime with me”(Wait, I thought Mona was only 14). Yeah, I know that’s the scary part.
So, after winter break I found out that she actually liked me. So, you know what I did, I played it cool like nothing happened. We continue hanging out with a group of friends, and did a lot of activities with the group. And we online chatted with each other every day. You see where this is heading? (Ohhhh you’re interested in Mona). No, no, no, no no. You see, I treated Mona as one of my guy friends. I even called her bro a few times because it was popular to do that back then. We never did anything romantic and when I was near her, I talked to other girls instead of her.
But…
There was time where she messaged me and wanted to hang out in person. Like one on one. I knew there was something fishy going on so I had to come up with excuses to make myself seem busy. (Sooo you treated her only like a friend). Yep, you’re right. I was only 14 at that time and I didn’t know how to say, “no, I don’t like you.” Because that’s kind of hurtful.
So, I wanted to distance myself with her but still kept her as a friend. If that makes any sense. I think it took her a while to find out that I wasn’t really interested in her and she moved on. Luckily things didn’t get awkward, I just lost the daily chat sessions with her but I was fine with that. Well, there was nothing better than hitting up an old literature book for my English class. (hu it was miserable).
Junior Year:
Now, fast forward to my junior year of high school. Basically, when you’re a junior or senior in our school, you start unlocking various perks. The ability to start driving, going to prom, attending events only for upperclassmen and so forth. You know what this means, the higher you level up in the school system, the more confidence you gain.
So here I am entering junior year like I’m invincible and powerful. My XP is blowing up through the roof. And I meet this girl. She’s a sophomore. So, one year below me. She was a really nice girl and we got along really well. Let’s call her Destiny. With Destiny, I was really nice to her. I would give her rides to places, you know I had to flex the perk on her. When she needed something, I would be there and we would hang out together a lot. So far everything is going well, giving her positive signs and signals. (So, you got the hots for her?). Yeah, basically, we did a lot of stuff together and had fun. It was all PG-13 by the way. And no, we did not kiss.
The Aftermath:
One day she was talking about how her dad made her eat her veggies when she was young and out of nowhere, I kid you not. I was like, “hypothetically speaking, if I was your boyfriend, I would never make you do that.” I was sitting really close to her. At that point I realized that I made it so obvious that I was trying to get at her. In my mind, I was like: “Oh please lord please come out of the clouds and make this work.” But she just laughed it off and scooted back and said, “Oh Ben, you’re so funny.” At that point, I knew I was in the friend-zone.
Now you see, the first girl, Mona, I was just friends with her. I didn’t see anything more to it. As for Destiny, I thought she was my Destiny, but obvious the cupids didn’t come through for me that day.
Conclusion:
Now, by all means, I’m no dating expert. I’m not 100% good at reading people either. But over time when you hang out and talk to people more, you’ll start understanding how they work. You’ll know how they behave and get a feel of what they are actually like or if they even like you. That’s my 3 cents for today. So now is he just a friend or is he interested?