Love is a little four-letter word with a big impact. It has been known to cause insane levels of happiness, deathly levels of sorrow, and everything in between. If you’ve ever been in love, I’m sure you can relate to the feelings, but what about the actions of those in love? It’s easy to say you love someone but then bail if it isn’t true, so how can we tell that a guy actually loves someone? Well, if a man really loves you, he will do this:
1. He will introduce you to those he cares about.
Some people are quick to introduce a new girlfriend to family and friends, so this sign alone isn’t enough to point to love; however, it is almost mandatory to do if a guy loves a girl and is serious about her. In an ideal scenario, loving someone means you want to spend the rest of your lives together and this means merging families. After all, that’s basically what marriage is in the eyes of the law. That’s why a guy in love will want you to meet and mesh with his family. He wants to introduce everyone to the girl he’s been talking about and have you enter his inner circle.
Humans are social creatures, so the only reason a guy wouldn’t want you to mesh with his people is that he either doesn’t have people – which could be a red flag – or because he doesn’t love you enough to be in his life.
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2. He will publicize you on social media.
I might start a lot of fights in relationships with this one, but hear me out. If your boyfriend doesn’t ever post on social media, then this sign is void. If, on the other hand, he always seems to be uploading stories or posts on IG or TikTok, the girl he “loves” should definitely be on at least a few of them. Social media is how most of us find out our acquaintances are dating someone, single, at a new job, moving, or a million other things. It’s basically the worldwide web of announcements. And, gosh darn it, if you love someone, you should want to announce it! Not to mention that hiding a relationship online is sketchy AF, and I see a bunch of dudes doing it then sliding into other girls’ DMs, but that’s none of my business…
3. He will plan his future with you.
True love means you envision this person in it for the long haul. You daydream about your lives together and could never envision being with someone else. All of these things are a recipe for planning a future with them, and this is what a man should do if he really loves you. He’ll include you in his big decisions, especially when it comes to what job he’ll take or where he might have to move. He’ll ask about your plans as well to make sure you’re both on the same page and heading down the same road.
4. He will trust you.
Trust is a delicate thing. Some people are naturally untrusting, while others become that way after they’ve been cheated on or lied to. A bit of doubt or suspicion is a protective factor to make sure we aren’t too naïve, but when it comes to love all doubts should be off the table. Love is the deepest connection you could have to another human being, and trust is one of the foundational pillars of that feeling. I remember how my ex and I didn’t trust each other, and there’s your reason as to why he’s an ex and not my fiancé right now. If there isn’t trust, there’s a flaw in that love’s foundation that needs to be addressed ASAP. If it isn’t, don’t be surprised when that love eventually comes crashing down.
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5. He will support your goals.
Love is a two-way street, meaning a guy who loves you will want the best for you as much as he wants the best for himself. Basically, if you and your boyfriend love each other he should be your number one fan and you should be his. You should be the most enthusiastic of the best cheerleaders for one another there could be. This creates a new level of support and encouragement that helps motivate you to reach for your goals and grow together.
6. He will put you first.
In most cases, genuine love should be selfless. This means putting your partner’s needs before your own. Of course, there is a line here, and you shouldn’t negate your own needs or happiness for someone else. I am instead talking about sacrificing something in order to help your partner or to make them happier. A man in love may do this by making you a priority when it comes to who he gives his time and by making sure you are always ok.
7. He will tell you.
Some couples can go months or even years without saying “I love you” and they will still feel love for one another, but nothing is comparable to hearing those sweet words of romance in your own ears. When a man truly loves you, a force within him should propel him to say it. This comes naturally and, once it’s said the first time, it should be a continuous reminder of his feelings for you.
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Conclusion:
If a man really loves you, he’ll likely do at least three things we mentioned today, and prioritizing you should be one of them. If you feel like he does a couple of things but not wholeheartedly, he may still be falling for you and just needs some more time to solidify his feelings for you. No matter if he checks off the list or not, you are worthy of love, and the right guy will quickly realize it – trust me. Have you ever been in love? Let me know what you think about it in the comments.