Some people say that men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. I’ve definitely been in positions where I’ve felt like we are from opposite galaxies, not even planets! There are plenty of things that we need to know about girls because through understanding we can form better and happier relationships. Even if you’re just planning to confess to your crush, this is the first step in developing that understanding. So, how do you confess in a way that makes you not seem like a creepy alien? Well, there are a few things you can do to spark that connection. Here are 8 ways on how to tell your crush you like her.
1. Send her flowers.
Yes, this is old school, but it will work unless she specifically tells you that she doesn’t like flowers. They are hands-down one of the most beautiful gifts to give to any girl. Get her a bouquet of flowers to go with your confession. You can say it in person while delivering them, or send a note if you’re a bit shy. Something like: “Roses are red, violets are blue, I’ve sent you these flowers to say that I like you.” Bam, I just crafted you a poem to go along with it. So there’s no excuse not to give her flowers. Extra points to you if you know her actual favorite flowers, or if you can send her a bouquet in her favorite color.
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2. Show up unexpectedly.
Now hear me out first. Drop in to see her unexpectedly, dressed and ready for a date. Now, there is a caveat to this. You have to give her some warning, whether that be an hour or more, telling her you’re stopping by. You don’t have to give her more details than that, but no girl wants to see a guy when she’s in pajamas with a face mask on. Give her a little time to brush her hair, if she needs to. When you show up, tell her you’re going to take her somewhere special. She may do another outfit change, so emphasize that there’s no rush. Then, take her somewhere special. The “where” is up to you. Dinner? A picnic? A fun activity? Think of what she would really enjoy, then spill your confession once you’re there.
3. Wait for a special day.
If you want to make the confession more memorable, choose to do it on a day that stands out from the rest. This could be something like a birthday, Valentine’s day, or the anniversary of when you two met if you can remember. If it’s going to be dark out, do it on a full moon, if you want to. It can be any small detail that makes that day more distinctive than others, which is sure to stick strongly in her mind.
4. Ask her to be your date for an event.
Events are cool because they give us an excuse to find a date that doesn’t seem as pressured as a “real” date. This is especially true if you two are already friends. Find something upcoming like prom, a dinner party, holiday party, or wedding. Bring up the event first and say how excited you are to attend since you’re sure it will be a good time. You need to sell the event just as much as you’re selling yourself because no one wants to attend a boring event if you aren’t interested either. Once you’ve set the scene for the event, you’ll mention that you need a date. You can simply leave the conversation there, and return back to ask her later on. After she’s had some time to think about it, you can ask her straight away. I would advise giving her time to mull it over regardless since no one likes the pressure of deciding so quickly. And this basically is like a soft confession. And if she agrees to go out with you for this occasion, there’s a good chance, she might say “yes” to your actual confession.
5. Leave her a private note.
Romance is still as alive as ever, and notes are still as romantic as they were 50 years ago. Leave your confession in a handwritten note somewhere only she can find it. Some examples could be in her locker, at her desk, or on her car. Make sure to write your feelings out directly and honestly. Keep it to a page, max. Short, sweet, and to the point. Telling someone you like them doesn’t always have to be face-to-face you know.
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6. Pick your moment.
Sometimes you might find yourself in a moment that is completely unplanned, but it just feels right. Maybe you two are joking around and after the laughter dies down, you’re both smiling and looking into each other’s eyes and you simply feel it; that connection, that shared moment. Take a deep breath and confess to your crush right then and there. It’s really one of the most natural confessions you can do, and you’ll never feel more ready than while sharing an intimate moment with her.
7. Do it privately. Public confessions should be saved for the courthouse.
Crush confessions are only the first rung on the ladder, and we are never sure how they will go. That being said, keep your confession private. Not only will this be a safety net for you in case things don’t go as planned, but it will also be a way to make the moment more special between the two of you if things go well.
8. There’s “no pressure,” but tell her you think she’s really cool.
If you prefer your method to be more a generic statement instead of a full-out confession, then this way is for you. Go about complimenting how awesome you think she is. Tell her there’s no pressure, but that she knows you see her in a special way. Like the romantic kind and not the sibling kind, in case she wanted something more. If you hate serious moments more than the next guy, you can make this statement as light-hearted as you want through tone and body language. It’s a good way to get your feelings out there without feeling too “out there.”
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Conclusion:
So now that you’ve got 8 different ways to connect to this lovely girl, it’s time to go and see if you two are on the same page. Any gesture you choose will be a kind one, so don’t worry too much about her response. You are going to come off genuine and caring no matter which one you choose, and that’s what’s important! And if she ends up just rejecting you, then it’s okay. You’ll just know that she isn’t the right one, yet. And if you give it a little bit more time, the right one will come. So there you have it 8 ways on how to tell your crush you like her.