How To Tell Someone You Love Them
In the past, I’ve made a video on how to tell your crush you like them. Now hopefully, you’ve done that and the relationship is booming with the both of you. If not, it’s okay. Some people just take longer than usual. But if you’ve been together for a while and finally gave it some thought to say the ‘L’ word. This is your time to do it. Love is a strong word so if you say it to them, it should mean something. And once it’s out there, there’s no taking it back. So, here’s 8 ways on how to tell someone you love them.
1. Say it in person
First things first, if this is your first time telling someone you love them, it should be in person. Period. It shouldn’t be in text or call or on some social media platform. It just doesn’t seem genuine and that it seems like you’re not putting any effort into it. But obviously after making your confession and stating it the first time in person, it’s okay to do the text and social media thing. In general, just saying it in person is much more romantic, heartwarming, and thoughtful don’t you think?
2. Express yourself using words
Sometimes people really appreciate it when their partner say something cute or tell them things like what you love about them. So, before you embark on your journey to say, “I love you,” perhaps read or recite a romantic poem to them. Here’s something I came up with while I was driving home. “I know that you will always be the one and soon will be called ‘hun.’ Together we can be a unit of one and be just like those married ones.” So, what do you think of it? Too soon? Yeah, I’m still in the process of toning it down a little. Yeah, I think that needs a lot more work. Anyway, if they just woke up, give them a quick pick-me-upper text so they start their morning with a smile. You can even go old fashion and leave cute notes or write a letter for them to read so they really know that you care about them. And when you’ve done all of that to warm them up, you go ahead and unleash the, “I love you.”
3. Plan a location
I’m assuming if you’re watching this, you’re on the verge of making a huge move in life, maybe. You see this person as someone who is truly special. Perhaps you want to be there every moment in their life and it’s about time to confess. If you’re already planning this, might as well plan where you want to say it. Do it in an environment that you deem is romantic or lovely or quiet. A few clique examples would be at the beach, at the park, at home, or simply outside down the neighborhood block. If you want, you can decorate the surrounding to make the experience more memorable, but that’s totally up to you. What I don’t recommend is just randomly telling them that you love them at some concert with loud music, or if you’re out partying on a Friday night and you’re chocolate wasted and you randomly say, “I love you.” Yeah, that’s a no go, that doesn’t seem like you genuinely meant it. So that’s also key.
4. Build up to that moment
So, it’s actually a pretty good combo if you can pair up your words with actions. What I mean by this is plan something cute to do together. Go on a cute date or spend some quality time together and just pamper them. Make them their favorite food if that makes them happy. Then throw in some pairing phrases that could help build you up to your final phrase, which is “I love you.” Some of these pairing phrases could be, “I’m always here for you,” “you’re like milk to my cereal,” or “If you’re a Pokémon, I’ll always choose you.” Sprinkle these phrases throughout the day or week so you make them feel special and when the time comes for you, you slowly grab their hands and look them in their eyes and say, “I love you.” This sounds like a scene from a romantic movie and it probably is since I watch a bunch of romantic movies. So yeah, that’s one way to do it.
5. Give them a tangible gift
This will truly make the day memorable. Get them something unique and it doesn’t have to be something expensive. I mean if you want, you can. Gift ideas can range from a cute photo album with all your dates together to a necklace or a bracelet. Then you tell them how much they mean to you and you slowly say I love you.
6. The physical touch
You know those romantic movies where two people get physical together… no, no, no I’m not talking about sex. Like when the two people get together and they do the slow dance with the romantic music playing… yeah that one. You can basically reenact that and then tell them how much they mean to you and then tell them, “I Love You.” But I guess if you can’t dance, there’s other ways to get physically. It starts with an S… Still not sex tho. But snuggle up together. Create that intimacy and let those 3 words out. Also, if you want, give them a massage. That works too. Just throwing some ideas out there. Don’t shot the messenger.
7. Make sure the moment feels right
But how does one make sure it feels right? That’s a good question. There’s never going to be a 100% right answer because this is all emotional and uses your own good judgment. A way to get a feel for it is that whenever you do something nice or sweet for them, they will really appreciate it. They’ll reciprocate back and want you around by their side. And if they support you, that’s just more bonus point for you to know that the moment you say, “I love you,” the likelihood of them reciprocating and saying it back to you will be high.
8. Spend some quality time together
There’s a difference just being together watching TV shows all day verse actually taking the time to do something together. The quality of time spent together is better than the quantity. Explore the city together and build new memories. Cook together and try something new. Or perhaps join a dance class or a ceramics class to learn a new set of skills or hobbies. After a period of time together, you should be able to get a better idea of each other and when you feel that the time is right, it’s time to say “I love you.” It seems about right, right? If the person is willing to be with you and create new experiences with you, that person is most likely to stay for some time.
So, if you’re ready to say the ‘L’ word, I hope you know that you’re moving the relationship to the next level. Sometimes you might receive all the positive signs from them and you think the timing is right to say it. But when you do say it, you might not get the same response back or they might not say the ‘L’ word at all. And that’s totally normal. It’s all part of the process because you have to understand that even though you’re ready, they might not be ready for it because they know it’s taking another step into the relationship. In that case, give them their time to think about that because it’s a lot to take in. I just want to let you know so you can prepare yourself for the best- and worst-case scenario.