How To Tell If Your Best Friend Has Feelings For You

How To Tell If Your Best Friend Has Feelings For You

There’s a general advice swung around the dating world, that says you should try to “Be friends first”. This advice focuses on getting to know a person before deciding if they’re really the one for you. How many couples do you know that seem super in-love the first month, then are broken up a few months afterward? Being friends first can help you avoid the boo-boos that come with dating someone too quickly. This doesn’t mean that you need to date your best friend, but it might show an opportunity for something bigger and better. Maybe you’re getting the vibe that your best friend is trying to step out of that friend zone and into the candle-lit-dinner-zone. Before you entertain this idea, you’ve got to be sure that you’re not misinterpreting any signs. Here’s 10 ways on how to tell if your best friend has feelings for you.

1. They’re never happy with your choice in a boyfriend or girlfriend.

A best friend is usually your #1 fan and supporter. They are there to calm your worries, give you heartfelt advice, and get excited with you when things are going well. If you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend that you’re happy about, a typical best friend will want to hear all about it. What are they like? What do you guys do together? Are you in love? Those are the basic questions you’ll hear. But if your best friend starts catching feelings for you, most likely they won’t ask these types of questions. This best friend of yours might ask you some dry questions, trying to find the out negatives of your new partner, or they may barely ask you anything at all about them. You will definitely notice a change in their tone or facial expression. No one wants to hear about their crush’s new love interest, so your best friend definitely doesn’t want to hear about yours. It’s not to say that they aren’t happy for you. Yeah probably not. They just think that you would be even happier in their arms instead. That a common sign to tell if a friend has feelings for you.

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2. You both made a “pact” that you’ll marry each other if you are still single before a certain age.

Ah, the marriage pact. A true milestone in life. Most of us will reach a moment where we might say, “Oh shoot, I’m getting old. I need to have a plan B just in case.” We do this for the main reason that not everyone wants to die alone. But, why pick this person to make a pact with? Obviously, you are agreeing that the both of you would be able to have a successful marriage if no other normal human being likes you or them. This is a statement piece that most people don’t realize. The only reason it isn’t viable right now is because no moves have been made, or that you’re just not sure what you want. Your best friend has already considered a life with you, to the point of having a marriage. So, if they ever make a pact with you about getting marry together, you should realize that they definitely have some sort of feelings for you.

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3. They start making exclusive plans with (only) you.

Best friends are two peas in a pod. Usually, though, a pod has more than two peas. Best friends will also share other mutual friends that socialize together as a team. If your best friend seems to be making way more one-on-one plans than group hangouts, they may have a secret reason for doing so. And if you suggest including other friends in the plan, but your best friend shoots down your suggestions or seems less than thrill about it. That’s saying something. Building a stronger relationship with someone requires putting in that personal time. Your best friend has feelings for you and is craving more quality time with you to build intimacy. So, if you are doing a lot of one-on-one hangouts with them, you should know that something is up with them.

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4. You both act like you’re a couple in front of others.

Playful teasing, lots of physical contact, and endless smiles. Does this sound like the behavior between you and your best friend? If so, there could be more behind those smiles than a few jokes. A good friendship may have some of these qualities from the get-go. But, when a best friend develops feelings for you, these qualities are amplified. There is a lot more affection and flirtation, and people will notice. Do your friends make comments about how the two of you are “basically a couple”? Maybe they even ask you, “Are you married yet?” These comments sometimes speak more truth than we notice. If acting like a couple comes naturally to you both, maybe taking the next step into a relationship would be a breeze! Who knows, I’m just saying. This is like the best way to tell if your best friend has feelings for you.

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5. Most of the time they include you in their social media post.

Our tech-savvy world is almost as important as our day-to-day world. We use it to share important messages, entertaining videos, and personal aspects of our own lives. I know I don’t post much on social media, but If your best friend is constantly talking about you on their own profile, they find joy in showing the world the bond that you two have. This person has many feelings for you; They are proud of you, glad to have you in their life, and they probably think you’re fun to be with! Who wouldn’t be happy to feel so appreciated by another person? If your best friend thinks all of those things about you and freely reflects them in their posts, the next feeling that comes with it is more romantic. When you start seeing and hanging out with someone more frequently, it’s only natural to start to think of them in deeper ways.

6. They always invite you to family events.

They say blood is thicker than water, so when you start mixing yourself with the family, things are getting serious. I’m sure we all have a friend whose family is very welcoming, no matter who you are. But this is NOT the average family. The average family has that one overly-judgmental member who asks you a billion questions, or they have the overprotective father or mother who wants to know what you’re doing hanging around their child, or they have the sibling who you just can’t really figure out whether they like you or not. When your best friend starts inviting you to their family events, they have enough confidence that you will mesh well with their relatives. They also have enough feelings for you that they’re willing to put themselves in uncomfortable situations if their family interrogates them about you afterward. This is like a test run of being the new boyfriend or girlfriend at Thanksgiving. So, consider yourself to be warned if you’re having that Thanksgiving dinner with their family.

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7. They say they will always be there for you.

A good friend should be there to support you when you need it. While this level of commitment is a basic element of being a friend, the sad part of growing up is that some friends come and go. You will meet people who are very close to you during one part of your life, but your paths grow apart as time goes by. If your best friend keeps stressing that they will ALWAYS, in big capital letters, be there for you, they may have a much more long-term plan than you thought. Forever, always, and no matter what. These are words associated with a strong, loving bond with someone. Your best friend wants to make sure that you know they are committed to you through thick and thin. How many romantic relationships do we know that lack commitment by one partner or the other? Your best friend will not be one of those people.

8. Your conversations go late into the night.

Some of us are night owls and some of us are early birds. No matter which category you fall in, when you have feelings for someone, you’re usually willing to switch bird-groups in order to talk to them. Late night conversations just hit differently than the day-time ones. I’m not sure why, but after 10 PM no one seems to be as emotionally stable as they were in the afternoon. Late at night feelings become more exposed, people tend to let their guard down, and we entertain more creative and crazy conversations. If you and your best friend are consistently communicating late into the night, you’re sharing more than a casual conversation. Not only are you expanding your learning about one another, but you’re also sacrificing one of the best things in life for each other: sleep. How many days have we wished and wished we could get just an extra hour of sleep? Now, you two are willingly giving that up to spend more time in each other’s company. Now that shows a lot. That’s a good sign to tell if your friend has feelings for you.

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9. They constantly and casually tell you they “love ya”.

The “L” word is a touchy subject for most of us. Luckily, the world has made variations of this word to use for different levels of love. “Love ya!” “Love you.” And “I love you.” Mean at least 3 different things, and could mean even more depending on the context and tone you’re using. Many best friends can be throwing each other the “love ya!” now and again. There’s a slight difference if your best friend seems to say it to you at the end of every SINGLE conversation. Maybe you do something silly and your best friend laughs and says “love ya”. Maybe you hand them a pen and they say “thanks, love ya”. If they’re throwing you more love than your own family, your best friend could have a different love stirring behind their words. When they start to have stronger feelings for you, these feelings will uncontrollably begin to spill over into what they say.

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10. They’re uncomfortable talking/dating about someone else.

If your best friend has eyes only for you, they aren’t going to want to try and start something up with someone else. You two already have a close bond and know each other inside and out. Your best friend won’t want to risk getting to know someone new, when they already have someone that they like in front of them. Because of this, you’ll find that your best friend isn’t really interested in speaking about or dating anyone else. You may bring up the topic, but they’ll probably shrug it off and change the subject. In their eyes, another person is like a drive-through hamburger, and you’re like a top-notch sirloin steak. Ready to be enjoyed. This is also a good sign to tell if your best friend has feelings for you.

Conclusion:

Overall, In the world of dating, it’s nothing new to see two best friends take a step into a romantic relationship. In fact, when people get old and marry, they are happy that they married their best friend. You already know what makes each other tick, how you react in different situations, and you’ve developed trust. Figuring out all of these things can be problematic when trying to start a romantic relationship with someone new. If your best friend is showing signs that they have some serious feelings for you, take a moment and consider what it would be like dating them. Are you looking for a relationship right now that is stable, dependable, and fun? If so, this might be the golden opportunity for you. So there you have it, 10 signs on how to tell if your best friend has feelings for you.