How To Tell If She Wants You To Make A Move
Let’s take you on a little flashback. You meet a girl, you start to hangout, you click, you become friends, there’s a spark in the air, you sense something more between the two of you, but now what? You might have been ballsy enough to make a move on a date or two, maybe you guys are even sneaking out to hangout. Either way, there’s definitely some romance vibes between the two of you, and everyone knows the next step is becoming official. Even if you’re sure of your connection, this step can be intimidating because no one like getting rejected. So, here’s 15 signs on how to tell if she wants you to make a move. Try to see how many of these signs you can check off.
1. She asks, “What are we?”
A question that makes some run for the hills, others shake in their shoes, and the rest of us fill up with nerves and emotion. “What are we” is the new way to ask what the heck is going on between us? It’s the way to finally put a label on something that should have probably been given a label a long time ago. Dreams are both broken and made with this question, and the only people who ask this are the ones who hope that the answer is more than friends. If the girl has asked you this, please take the opportunity to discuss what you want to be with her… chances are, she will be more than happy to hear you finally say what she’s been thinking all along.
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2. Her friends bother you about your relationship status.
Two people are never official until the big talk happens. The friends most likely know what’s going on and will want to protect her from getting her feelings hurt by you. So, when they increase the pressure to change your status from single to taken, the reasons behind it are obvious; the girl herself is wondering when the heck you’ll step up to the plate. Her friends are trying to investigate if you’ll EVER make the move, and they need to hear something promising enough to know that there’s hope for the two of you. Whatever you say from here on will be immediately passed along to the girl, so basically this is your opportunity to speak up.
3. You know each other’s secrets.
When we first start hanging out with someone we are interested in, it’s all fun and games. Everything is new and attractive because we are putting forth the best version of ourselves to try and be a great catch while we catch a great partner. Once you get past this, though, is when the true nitty-gritty comes out, secrets and all. If you and this girl are intimate enough to share personal secrets that few other people know, you are definitely intimate enough to officially start some kind of relationship. The foundation is all there, my friend.
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4. She keeps telling you how you’d make a great partner.
Receive a compliment, good for you. Receive ten compliments, it’s probably not only about you. What do I mean? One compliment is random, it’s honest. Ten compliments by the same person are trying to make a much bigger point. If this girl goes on and on about how you would make a great partner, she isn’t just stroking your ego. Her point is clear; you would make a great partner FOR HER. If someone thinks you are that wonderful as a partner, and they are single, then they want you as that wonderful partner. It’s simple math. Either that, or they’re a crazy cat lady who never wants to date again. I will assume this girl isn’t the cat lady.
5. The families already call you a couple.
As much as we want to ignore our parents when we’re younger, they’re usually right about more things than not. The elders and your parents have lived longer than you and have seen their fair share of things. Sometimes, they see things as obvious before you or I even notice that things exist. If both of your families already see and refers you two as a couple, they may have a bit of future-vision going on. Plus, as a bonus, you two are already approved by them and made that family bond– that’s huge! You’ve already met the parents, so tell me again why haven’t you made it official.
6. She keeps saying how she wants to be in a relationship.
Being single and free is cool until it’s cuffing season and you want to find your person. While no one really needs to be in a relationship, if you find someone that you connect great with, it’s only natural to want that relationship to grow naturally. If this girl keeps talking about how much she wants a relationship, she probably isn’t desperate. If she was, she could’ve found someone else instead of you. Why would she just be waiting? She wants you to get the hint that she is ready for the next step with you. And that’s your cue. This is a good signs to tell she wants you to make a move.
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7. You’re doing relationship things together.
Candlelit dinners, movie nights, walks on the beach at sunset, sharing hobbies, meeting each other’s’ friends… does any of these sound familiar? Usually, these are the things that couples do. If you find that you and her have already done most of these things, if not more, together, then ask yourself why you’re doing relationship-things without the actual relationship. You’re both comfortable doing these things together, so it seems only natural that you would both be comfortable with the title as well. Does that make sense?
8. She doesn’t make plans without you.
In a typical relationship, it’s both courteous and friendly to tell your partner about what’s going on in your life. You aren’t going to go on a fun camping weekend trip with your friends and forget to tell your partner about it. Please don’t be that horrible person. If this girl is informing you of her plans left and right, whether they include you or not, she is doing so to keep you in the loop at all times. It’s natural to do this with someone who likes you and speaks to you every day. You’ve got to appreciate her honesty here. Good communication is definitely a strong point, and a necessary one for a relationship. This girl got it, and wants you to notice.
9. You guys have infinite inside jokes and nicknames.
As the flames of love grow, so do the gross pet names and teasing nicknames. These cute new names might make other people roll their eyes, but they make you both smile nonstop. If you’re sharing both inside jokes and corny names between the two of you, you might as well put a ring on it, because she already has eyes for you.
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10. You have each other’s stuff.
If you’ve found random things that belong to this girl anywhere from your house to your locker, it seems you two have been spending quite a lot of time together. This is what happens when people are in a relationship. If this doesn’t give you a hint that you should make a move, then I don’t know what will. Especially when she has your shirts and sweaters too. That’s a huge sign to tell if she wants you to make a move.
11. She jokes about you two never becoming official.
After a long enough time waiting, any girl is going to get a little tired if it seems like you aren’t going to make the next move. Waiting gets old fast, and sometimes girls get frustrated. The first level of her frustration will be very light, and you’ll hear it within sarcasm and a few jokes. When she starts mentioning how you two will forever be stuck as the “almost-couple”, that’s your cue to step up and ask her out. She’ll only wait for so long.
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12. She leaves the group to be alone with you.
Remember back when you were younger, when you would be alone with a girl away from your friends, and then all of a sudden you hear everyone going, “Ooooooooo!” Pointing fingers and shouting things like “he likes you.” Well, as dramatic as it is, they’ve got a point. Seeing two people sneak away from a friendly group definitely raises some eyebrows. If this girl is constantly tiptoeing away from the group to sneak some alone time with you, it’s as obvious as an elephant in the room. She wants you to make your move.
13. Neither of you are seeing other people.
Technically, without official title, everyone is free to explore their options. You haven’t asked this girl out yet. And yes, is she staying dedicated to you and only you? If so, that’s a pretty big deal. She is cutting off all other opportunities in the dating world because she is putting it all on the line for you. If you’re doing the same, you’re not doing yourself any favors by keeping her on hold either. There’s plenty of other people out there, but none of those people are for either of you, since you only have eyes for each other why not give it a shot?
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14. You’re happier when you two are together.
Life without happiness is like salt without pepper, or macaroni without cheese – it’s just wrong. Happiness is what keeps us going, what makes the tough times worth the effort, and what makes us smile on a rainy day. If this girl brings you more sunshine than the deserts, you need to treasure that. There’s no better way to do that than by making her a more official part of your life… so ask her out!
15. There’s a big elephant in the room.
Maybe, recently, every time you’ve hung out with this girl there’s this weird feeling in the air. It’s not exactly pressure or tension, but some sort of unspoken scenario going on. You basically feel that the next step is imminent in your relationship. Even your gut is telling you. You’ve reached all other milestones and the reasonable next move is to MAKE your move. Trust your instincts.
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Conclusion:
So, now that you know how to tell if she wants you to make a move, how many of these signs have you checked off? If it’s more than half, you’ve got a really good chance that she’s waiting to hear those magic words. It’s obvious that you two are feeling each other and fit together like two peas in a pod… so, what’s the hold up? Take the leap and ask her out. Don’t overthink things too much, make it official. If your relationship with her is already making you feel like a king, treat her like the queen she is! By making it official, you’ll take something that is great and watch it grow into something even greater. Plus, you probably don’t have anything to lose anyway. So there you have it 15 ways on how to tell if she wants you to make a move.