If your girlfriend has been acting weird lately or you’ve been hearing rumors about her running around with another guy, you may be wondering how to tell if she has cheated. In this video, we’re sharing the top 10 things you can look out for to figure out if she is running around behind your back. Look for at least four of these signs to confirm your suspicions.
1. Suddenly you’re incompatible.
People grow apart, it’s sadly a part of life. But if your girlfriend flips from one week to another, this isn’t natural growth. In this situation, it was all butterflies and rainbows before, but now your girlfriend is suddenly saying you two are the opposite of peas in a pod. You’re a tomato and she’s a watermelon. There is absolutely no relation there. This switch could be her suddenly realizing she’s more into someone else than she is you.
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2. She is extra sweet to you (in a guilty way).
Maybe you’re feeling weird because your girlfriend is too sweet lately. Like, she’s sucking up to you and acting as if you’re suddenly the king of the castle. There’s nothing wrong with a little appreciation in a relationship. In fact, it’s actually a vital part of healthy ones, but if this isn’t your girlfriend’s normal behavior and she seems to be doing it to make up for something, you just have to wonder what that something is…
3. She suddenly cares more about her appearance.
There’s nothing wrong with a casual look. If your girlfriend is more on the natural side and enjoys her comfy clothes, more power to her. Now, things change if she suddenly changes – literally, her clothes and makeup – as if she’s suddenly trying to impress someone. Talk to her about it first, because you never know if it’s just a personal change to make her feel better about herself, but keep an eye out as to when she’s dressing this way… are you around, or is it only for the outings that you’re not invited to?
4. She picks fights with you for no reason.
A cheating girlfriend isn’t going to be super at peace with herself. That is, not if you two are golden. This means that she’s going to look for fights with you. These fights – no matter how dumb they are and how she manages to start them – give her the push she needs to go with the other guy. Think about it – if things were peachy with you guys all the time, then how would she find the excuse to get away?
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5. She is distracted when she’s with you.
Distractions can happen for a lot of reasons. Most of these reasons can and should be discussed with your boyfriend or girlfriend, especially if it’s something that worries you. If your girlfriend is not present mentally when you’re hanging out, but she just shrugs off your inquiries and tells you she’s fine, there is definitely something on her mind that she is keeping a secret… could it be someone?
6. She stops publicizing your relationship.
Some people never post their relationship status on their social media, but then again, they never post anything on social media. So that’s fine. But other people post their friends, their accomplishments, their family, even their lunch, and yet refuse to upload a couple pic onto their 24-hour story… shady! A big sign of a cheating girlfriend is if she refuses to publicize your relationship, yet seems to publicize every other aspect of her life. Seems like she doesn’t want one of her followers to see you two together…
7. She’s too busy.
If your girl has a corporate job, volunteers, and dedicates time to her hobbies and family while dating you, you have a champion on your hands. If, though, she starts to leave you last on her agenda and is suddenly busy doing very vague things, she may have some calendar dates – or real dates – she is keeping hidden from you.
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8. She stops including you in her future plans.
Before you two would daydream about the house you were going to buy and how many kids you planned to have. Now it’s like her future plans involve you living a continent away with no internet or phone service. What happened there? Obviously, something in her mind to make her think that you won’t be in the picture long term, or that someone else will instead.
9. She omits the details.
Where were ya? Nothing, just running some errands. Where at? You know, the usual places. What kind of errands? Standard stuff. Gotta love these vague answers, don’t you? If she’s omitting the details, she’s also going to omit other stuff like what guy she was with, what they did, and whether or not his tongue was launched down her throat.
10. She thinks everything you do is wrong.
In many relationships, the girlfriend naturally thinks half of the boyfriend’s actions are wrong. No offense to men, but many times, well, they are. The difference between a normal nagging girlfriend and a cheating nagging girlfriend is that the latter will start criticizing you when she starts her “affair”, so to speak. She’s going to look for faults in you that give her a reason to feel better about running around with someone else.
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Conclusion:
If your girlfriend has checked off four or more of these signs, you’ve unfortunately learned how to tell that she has been or is cheating on you. It’s time to sit her down and have a mature conversation to see what she says. Only you can decide where to go from there. So there you have it 10 signs on how to tell if she has cheated on you.