How To Tell If A Girl Is Confused About Her Feelings For You
In a world that is constantly shifting, the only thing that’s certain is change. We change how we feel about our style, our jobs and – yes – even about people. As situations evolve or people grow, the best thing we can do is be aware of our surroundings and adapt. This is especially true in romantic situations. Now, what if you’re on the OTHER end of the stick? You aren’t changing and your feelings are stable, but that special girl seems to be bi-polar with her behaviors. Does she like you, or does she not? Maybe a combination of both. A girl’s personal life often has more than meets the eye, so it’s important to pay close attention to how she’s acting, what she’s saying, and what’s going on around her. Here’s 10 ways on how to tell if a girl is confused about her feelings for you.
1. She still has feelings for someone else
The reason that some relationships break is the same reason that other relationships never start; the other guy. She might be entertaining you, but you catch wind that she’s still seeing or speaking to her old guy. No, I don’t mean like old old, but like an ex type of guy. I mean her old thing, the ex, that ol’ spark that never quite went out. If this guy is still on her radar, you might as well get off of it. Unresolved feelings are like unresolved math problems… it’s a stressful, messy situation that no one wants to deal with. This girl you’re feeling can only give you her heart if she’s in possession of it herself. Right now she doesn’t seem to be the case. She might not be interested in you. Any attempts she makes with you will always have the risk that she’s doing so for selfish reasons. Maybe you’re a distraction – or worse – a way to make her ex jealous. If that’s the case, you might want to steer way for this one just for your own good because you don’t what to be the second option.
2. She seems to change her mind every day
If this girl is changing her mind like she’s changing clothes, something just ain’t right. One day she tells you that she’s interested, the next she says she isn’t looking to date right now. One hangout she’s super warm and comfortable with you and the next, she’s super cold. You can count on her words just about as much as you can count on her actions, and that’s. Nothing. You’re better off shaking a magic eight ball to know what tomorrow will hold. This situation is simply because her mind is actually working like a magic eight ball. She is balancing between a few feelings; attraction, interest, distrust, and, most of all, confusion. It’s not that she isn’t attracted to you. It’s that she doesn’t trust her attraction to you because she can’t commit to her feelings for you. This girl is confused, and shaking her isn’t going to give a clear answer. Give her some space and try again in the future when you think the time is right.
3. She asks personal questions but avoids answering them herself
If she knows all of the right questions and conversation-starters, that’s a big plus. It’s great to have someone who knows how to keep a conversation going. The issue starts when you realize that the conversation revolves mostly around you, even when you try to make a change of direction. This girl may ask personal and intimate questions. You can tell that she’s trying to get to know the real, nitty-gritty you. So why does she flinch and change the topic when you try to dive just as deep into her mind? This girl isn’t ready to open up to you, and she’s definitely not at the point where she is willing to be vulnerable in front of you. This doesn’t mean that it will never happen, only that she’s still confused about if she can show that side of herself to you. Build up her trust and, slowly but surely, that confusion will start to simmer away.
4. Sometimes she’s all over you and sometimes she’s not
If your physical connection with this girl dances between brotherly love and love-of-your-life, we have got a serious problem. You might feel on top of the world on the occasions where she’s all touchy feeling, but soon you’ll be plummeting into insecurity when she starts to act ice cold with you and tries to avoid you. You’ll start questioning yourself. Is it me? Is it my hair? Do I smell bad? Take a breath. Sometimes it’s not you and it’s them. This girl is more lost than a tourist in LA traffic. In the same way she changes her mind every day, she also changes her opinion on you. One day you’re her type and she’s flirty, but the next she’s unsure if that connection is really there. You’re setting yourself up for an emotional rollercoaster on this one, so you’re either going to have to go with the flow and accept her personality of the day, or avoid her advances the days she does decide to want you. Only then will she see that you’re a serious person who won’t tolerate her confusing games.
5. She flirts with you, but you’re not the only one
There’s nothing quite like the pumped-up feeling you get when someone puts you on a pedestal. Flirting is fun, and it’s even better when you’re the chosen one in the group to get flirted with. A spiraling tailspin to the ground is the following feeling when you realize that she flirts with everyone else too. You’re definitely not the only one she has her eyes on, and you might not even be the top 3 contenders. This girl does show interest in you if she flirts because we often flirt with those that we like. But she is just piling you with the other group of hot-and-interesting people she finds in her daily life. This girl is definitely not serious or clear about her intentions, and chasing after her is like trying to catch a slimy frog in a pond.
6. She is overwhelmed with different parts of her life
While some girls are just having some flirty fun, others are dealing with a whole other reality. Sometimes life hands us tougher situations than others, so if you found out that this girl has a lot on her plate, don’t be surprised if her emotions seem to change. A big life change or loss can have a heavy impact on one’s day to day. Some people need time to readjust and return to their “normal” life. Others reevaluate their life as a whole and make permanent changes. While she is sorting out her feelings and her life, it’ll be mindful to give her some space and provide support without being too overbearing. Sometimes there are other things that are more important than a romantic relationship for her.
7. She turns your serious conversations into jokes
If you’re a funny person, it’s a great thing to hear other people laughing at your jokes. If you’re more on the serious side, it could be a nerve-wracking thing to hear other people laughing at you… because you probably didn’t make a joke. There’s a time and place for messing around. When a girl doesn’t seem to know the difference, there may be more too it than just a lack of social skills. If this girl blows you off every time you bring up something about romance, being together, or taking the next step towards a relationship, the pattern speaks for itself. You’ve obviously arrived at a place where you want to be more serious with her. You obviously feel that you’re connecting and bonding with her, and this girl feels and knows it too. The thing is, she isn’t sure if it’s truly what she wants. So, when you’re serious with her about this, she might laugh it off and say something like, “Oh you’re so funny,” or “haha I like myself too.” Yeah, I low key got rejected like that. So, don’t worry.
8. She never has quite enough time for you
Did you know that the average American is exposed to more than 4,000 advertisements PER DAY? And these background distractions don’t include all of the time we spend lost in phones, computers, in thoughts, or chatting about nothing. All in all, when someone gives us their undivided attention, it could be compared to a gift of gold. Many relationships get lost in the craziness of the world, but staying focused on your partner is a true sign that you’re committed, in it to win it. Unfortunately, you may feel sad when she isn’t giving you the time or wanting to hang out with you. Or, maybe she entertains you for a bit but always has to go running off for some other things. She isn’t making you a clear priority in her schedule because it simply isn’t clear if she wants you to be on her agenda permanently, yet.
9. Her communication is on and off
If her communication is flimsier than the cellular coverage at a music festival, it isn’t because she has a cheap phone provider. Communication is a combination of electronic messages, photos and face-to-face chatting. Good communication includes openness, trust, and consistency. You can’t establish any of these things if you lack consistency. Only with stable, ongoing communication can you become more serious with someone for the long-term. If your crush wants to talk up a storm one day, and goes missing the next, it’s clear to see that she hasn’t decided what she wants with you. And if you want to keep the conversation going with her. Here’s: How to keep a conversation going with a girl.
10. She sends you on an emotional rollercoaster
Ups and downs are fun at theme parks, surfing waves and going off-roading. But they are horrible to experience in airplanes, boats, and relationships. A promising future relationship should make you feel like you’re walking on sunshine… but with way more security than actually walking on a ball of gas. And this is when you know you’re on an emotional rollercoaster. If one day you feel like you’re floating in air because you were able to hang out with your crush and talk. And then when she says something judgy about you. You get super paranoid and start having self-doubts that starts spirally down towards negativity, that’s when you’re riding that emotional rollercoaster. The initial stage shouldn’t be like that and if it’s like that. She’s definitely confused because the idea of having a romantic relationship or anything more than that hasn’t really develop inside of her.
Overall, no matter which sign rings a bell, it doesn’t feel good to know that the girl you like isn’t interested in you. If a girl is confused about her feelings for you, there is a lack of dedication that needs to be addressed. While you may be the future apple of her eye, it seems like she needs some time to clear her head. Please, by all means, give her time and space. Maybe she will come around fully decided and determined. Maybe she won’t. No matter what she decides, make sure that you still live your life as is and respect her decision. No one needs another person to add stress or confusion to their lives. At the end of the day, you do deserve to have a relationship with someone who is ready to put you first in the same way you do to them.