How To Talk To Your Crush, Instantly!

How To Talk To Your Crush, Instantly!

See after going through all your breakups and rejections. I’m still here. But hope this new crush you’re trying to get at will last longer than my fame. But before trying to do anything out of the ordinary, you’ll probably want to talk to your crush first and get to know them. Whether you’re shy, introverted, or unpopular like me, hope you’ll find at least a tip to land a kiss on that lip…well after you pass your practice rounds. So, with that being said, here’s 10 ways on how to talk to your crush instantly. In the meantime, please donate some thumbs up for me.

1. Pretend you don’t have a crush

Yes, pretend like those feelings aren’t there. The reason why you’re hesitant to talk to your crush is because you’re overthinking everything and having that fear of what they might think of you. The more you complicate things, the more nervous you’re just going to get. And when you’re not nervous and overthinking things, you’ll be able to get words out of your mouth. Just think about how you talk to your siblings or your close friends. It’s super chill and natural right? Because you’re relaxed. So, relax and start getting comfortable. I promise they don’t bite.

2. Dare your friends to do it as well

I’m not saying you should dare your friends to talk to your crush for you, I’m saying dare your friends to talk to their crush. That way, you’ll at least have the courage to talk to your crush. Plus, you don’t want to be that person who initiates a dare and not live up to it. And whoever doesn’t go through with it should end up with some consequences.

3. Invite them to hangout

This will require you to know a little bit more about them because it might be a little strange just asking a random stranger to hangout. And of course, do it in a group setting so it’s not awkward just hanging out one on one. So, if you can, just be friendly and casually invite them to join you guys to grab lunch, or go attend that friend’s birthday party that you’ve been trying to avoid for the past week, or do a group study session. The invite is just to get your foot into the door so you can actually talk to them and have something to say, often times, you’ll probably get a “no,” but it’s okay, it’s not like you had high hopes of getting a “yes” to begin with. All you wanted to do is be friendly and talk to them. And this is really important because you want to build rapport with them first so you’ll get more chances of talking to them later on in the future.

4. Have a plan

I can’t stress this enough. Most likely if you’re just going to approach them without a plan, you’re going to blank out. But if you planned a list of things to talk about, that’s different. It’ll keep the conversation flowing and there won’t be random awkward silence. And if all else fail and you ran out of things to talk about on your list, then use your surrounding to your advantage. For example, if you see a dog nearby, you talk about how cute the dog is and how you want a dog in the future and ask your crush if they want a dog, if so, then you already know in the future you both can have a dog inside your home, when you move in together. Was that smooth? Or was that too soon? Okay, maybe we can work on that later.

5. Start off with a compliment

I’ve said this on my other videos a few times already but compliments are indeed a good way to start. If you have nothing to say or don’t know where to start. Open with a compliment. I can’t think of one person who doesn’t like a compliment. But of course, your compliment has to be real and genuine. If you know of this person at school or work, give them a compliment regarding their recent achievements but if their work ethic isn’t looking as bright as your future, you can always compliment on the things that they wear.

6. Ask for a small favor

For this one, you at least have an objective in mind. Something like, “Hi, can I borrow your pen for a minute, please?” or “Hi, can you help me pull that book out for me, please?” It’s a low-pressure opener and it can easily get yourself notice if your crush doesn’t know you already exist. Then you follow by a compliment and sooner or later, you’ll have a conversation going. You can keep it short or long; however, you’re feeling that day.

7. Do the activity that they are doing

This will require you do some research on them. Figure out what they like to do. If they are in the chess club, join the chess club. If they like going to the gym, join the gym. The idea is to bond over similar interest. Once you’re in the same atmosphere together, it’ll make it 10 times easier to talk to your crush. You want to build that initial connection first if you want your crush to start liking you. But of course, I’m not talking about changing your entire lifestyle for them or throwing away your family legacy for them. I’m just saying this initial bond might change your entire life and the duration of being single.

8. Get them talking about their interest

This goes with the last point I made early. But of course, if you can’t join the soccer club because you’re allergic to running then I understand. But you can still try to figure out what they like and when you hit the right topic, they can go on and on. You ask a few questions along the way to keep the conversation going and engaging and let them know you’re listening and you’ll be surprise how long you’ll be able to talk to them.

9. Find out what you both have in common

If the last bullet was too hard for you to do for some reason, then I’m 100 percent positive this one will be easier. Common interest is the easiest way to start connecting and bonding with others. Academics gets a little redundant and boring sometimes, real sports would be cool if we had real friends, and games will cause people to lose sleep. So yeah, when in doubt talk about memes.

10. Social media is your best friend

Okay, let say you absolutely don’t want to do any of that because it’s still too hard. Don’t worry, I gotchu. Ask for their help or their opinion on something via social media. For example, let say you need help on math, all you have to do is simply reach out to them on the social media platform they’re on and ask them if they know how to do that problem on the math assignment. If they don’t respond to you, even better. Now you have an opportunity, tomorrow, to go up to them at school to say, “Hey, so I was suck on a math problem yesterday, I reached out to you on Facebook, but you didn’t respond, but anyway, did you get to do problem 42?… Also, let’s connect on Facebook and be friends so we can study each other, I mean study together or help each other out.” And just like that, you killed two birds with one stone. You connected online and connected in person. And the next thing you know it, you’re connected to their Wi-Fi at home.

Overall, just remember that not everyone is going to be interested in you. You’re going to encounter rejections here and there and it’s okay. At least you know now then not knowing at all. And if you’re going to cry, I’ll cry with you. But the more you practice, the more you’ll feel comfortable talking to your crush or future crushes. Trust me. So, don’t be too sad about it.