How To Make Someone Like You
Now remember that one video where I said you can’t make someone like you. But then I thought about making pizza. I mean you can make the pizza, but that doesn’t mean it’ll turn out good and you’ll eat it. But over time, if you keep making pizza and learning form it, you’ll eventually make one hellava pizza. So, I guess it’s a process to increase your likability, whether it’s trying to get a boyfriend, girlfriend, or just trying to make more friends. Here’s 10 ways to do so to attract others to like you.
1. Be genuinely interested in other people
Let me be real and honest with you here. You can make way more friends and get people to like you in 2 months by genuinely becoming interested in others than you can in 2 years trying to get others interested in you. Get to know a person before judging them. When you are genuinely interested in them, you are willing to spend time with them. Time is the most valuable thing you can give to a person and if you are able to spend time with them and even have the slightest interest to care about them, you’ve just increased your likability. You’ll be surprise on what you’re able to learn from them and at the same time how they can help you grow as an individual. That’s one way on how to make someone like you.
2. Make a good first impression
If you don’t know how to make a good first impression, then just start simply by smiling. It’s effective and it’s cheap. You don’t have to pull up in a Lambo or flex your Rolex or Gucci sweater. When you smile, it lets other people know that you’re friendly, that you’re glad to see them, or that they make you happy. Have you ever noticed when babies smile? When they smile, you tend to smile back and think it’s like the best thing in the world besides food of course.
3. Be honest
No one likes a liar. Sometimes it’s even harder to keep a lie. Once it spreads, you’ll be stacking a lie after another. It gets you nowhere far and only fixes the problem temporarily. Being honest creates trust and makes others more willing to be around you. Plus, it gets you out of feeling guilty. Once you lie, you break that trust and it becomes harder to regain it back. People like an honest person.
4. Remember people’s name
Specifically, the person that you’re talking to and casually name drop them when you’re talking. People generally like hearing their name because it makes them feel special and can help you easily gain good will from it. When you say the person’s name, they have an affinity to pay attention to you. It’s just an automatic response. Now remember that one time when you heard a slight fainted sound of your name being thrown across the room and you just froze and your ears sharpened up because you’re curious of what’s going on and why your name is being summoned. An individual name is unique and it carries a lot of weight when you say it. So, if you are ever in a conversation with someone, say their name a few times to increase your likability.
5. Be reliable
Prove to them that you can keep promises and that you are trustworthy. Show people that if you say something, you’ll make it happen. If someone tells you a secret, be able to keep it. Make yourself available and put in effort to spend time with the person or people that you are interested in. Let them know that they can come to you if they need to talk. But don’t let them take advantage of you. If they do that, then that person isn’t really worth it to invest your time in.
6. Be a good conversationalist
In order to be good at this, you need to be a good listener, first. Listen to what people have to tell you and take mental notes so you can use it to ask questions or expand on their idea. In addition, encourage others to talk about themselves. Beside shy people, people generally like to talk about themselves to boost their ego. If you are genuinely interested in what they have to say and you’re actively listening and understanding them, you’ll greatly increase your rapport with them. Eventually they’ll want to be around you more.
7. Make them feel important
At the end of the day, people want to feel like they are appreciated. You did not evolve from a rock nor you’re a robot. You came out from another human being. It took two to make you. You have feelings and you crave respect. Appreciate what people do for you. Even to those who are working at fast food restaurant handling your order. Don’t be afraid to say, “Thank you,” when someone helps you out. Compliment them or find something about the person you can honestly admire. If you’re able to do this and do it sincerely, you’ll get people to like you even if you met them, briefly. If you’re interested, here’s how to make someone feel special.
8. Be positive and friendly
These are great qualities to have. No one likes a negative and rude person. If you’re positive and friendly, you’ll attract those who are also like that. Don’t complain at every little thing and don’t talk about others behind their backs Doing so will just make others wonder if you do it behind their back when you’re not around. In addition, have a sense of humor. Laugh with people and be able to laugh at yourself. When you are positive and friendly, people will remember you and are more likely to like you as a person.
9. Be willing to open up
When the time comes, be ready to open up. After investing your time and energy towards people, they’ll eventually want to know more about you as well. So, don’t put a wall between yourself and others. Doing so will only make it hard for people to like you or even get to know you. In addition, let them know a secret or two about you. When you are vulnerable and open, they’ll start to get a sense that you’re trusting them with secrets. But be careful of what you share. When done right, it’ll help you bring people closer to you.
10. Love yourself
Sometimes we could be pretty harsh on ourselves. Pointing out the bad characteristics about yourself or how you don’t like the way you look could have a negative effect on you and others around you. It’ll repel others away from you because of the negative energy you cast out. The best way to fix this and get people to like you is by loving yourself and being confident in your own body. You only have one, so treat it like it’s your everything. People will like you if you can be yourself and that you’re comfortable in your own skin.
On a side note, just remember that you cannot get everyone to like you. There’s always going to be outliers and it’s okay. Don’t get discouraged by that. Haters will always hate and find something wrong and you’ll just have to ignore them. If you practice all these tips and put them into action, it’ll definitely change your life and how others will see you. So there you have it, 10 ways on how to make someone like you. If you’re interested, here’s how to make someone miss you.