Secret secrets are no fun… especially if they’re about a guy’s crush on you. I mean, who wouldn’t want to know if they’re being crushed on? It’s a confidence boost and you might end up liking this guy back! So, here’s how to know if a guy has a crush on you secretly. There are six key things you should look out for and take note of.
1. He’s always nearby but never approaches you.
A guy harboring a secret crush doesn’t want you or anyone else to know what he’s feeling. He could be super shy, unsure of how to act around the ladies, nervous, unhappy with his emotions, or a bunch of other stuff. The point is, he’s going to put in major effort to make sure his crush isn’t obvious to you or anyone else. At the same time, he likes you, so he is happier around you and wants to learn more about who you are. This is why you’ll notice he’s always around, but never in front. You might catch him in your peripheral vision, but he won’t be strutting his stuff and sitting down next to you anytime soon.
I had this happen with a guy back in high school named Bobby. I was never into Bobby. He was one of those quiet, awkward kids. No offense to him now, but I was 15 years old at the time and had my own stuff going on. Anyway, I think I spoke maybe ten words to Bobby my entire life but I would bet $100,000 that he had a crush on me at the time. Why? The kid was always near me and staring at me, but would never get close enough to say a word. Personally, I didn’t like it, but that was just between me and good ole Bobby. What I’m saying is, if he acts like Bobby, he likes you.
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2. He uses things to block your view of him.
When people are closed off for emotional reasons, it’s common to see them use physical things to block off their bodies. Think of this as a representation of their emotional shield. So, this guy could block off his face using a hoodie, a book, his friend, by putting his head on a desk as if he was sleeping, or even by looking down at his shoes. Bobby preferred to use his long hair and a black hoodie to hide behind. Anyway, this guy will still be able to move just a few inches and get a good look at you, but if he moves back two inches, he can hide from the embarrassment of you catching him staring.
3. He’s braver online than in person.
Secret crushes like to hide in the depths of the internet. That’s one reason why there are so many creepy guys online – at least, that’s my reasoning. If someone secretly likes you, it’s easier for them to like your picture online than it is to tell you they like you to your face. This almost gives them the chance to flirt without ever confirming that they’re truly flirting. After all, anyone can like a picture and say it’s just to be nice, couldn’t they? You may find this guy chatting you up in your DMs, liking your posts, and sharing memes with you, but when you see him in person, he barely has a few sentences to say.
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4. He perks up if your name is called.
You may not speak in person or interact much in real life, but this guy seems to respond when other people interact with you. If your friend shouts your name from across a room, he instantly looks up. If someone starts joking around with you and makes you laugh, he suddenly seems attentive. These concrete moments where he displays interest to show that you are what he’s trying to observe and learn more about.
5. He’ll avoid speaking in front of you.
Ok, I’m bringing it back to Bobby because – I’m telling you – this was one big, fat secret crush. As I mentioned, Bobby almost seldom spoke to me or in front of me. Sure, he was a quiet kid, but he had his group of friends much like everyone else. I would see him talking to his friends sometimes at lunch or outside, but I swear that the moment he noticed me in the room he would stop talking altogether – even if I couldn’t hear his conversation in the first place! A guy who avoids speaking in front of you is worried that he’s going to say the wrong thing or sound silly and get embarrassed. That’s the fear when you’re crushing on someone you don’t have a friendship with.
6. He gets flustered when you enter a room.
If this guy didn’t expect you to be in his office, work zone, classroom, or wherever he is, he’s going to get frazzled if you suddenly appear. It takes a lot of energy to hold onto a secret crush and even more energy to prepare to be around your crush if you’re holding in your emotions. Did Bobby faint every time I entered the room? Ok, no, I’m not that great. But he would turn red, especially if he didn’t notice that I was near him until I was in earshot.
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Conclusion:
Overall, I didn’t want to expose the guys on this one, but some of you asked for it, so there it is. If you’ve exposed a secret crush before, tell me about it in the comments! So there you have it 6 signs on how to know if a guy has a crush on you secretly.