Unfortunately, we weren’t all born looking like Megan Fox or Brad Pitt. Boo-hoo. While there are ways to make your face prettier, looks only get you so far. Learning how to have an attractive personality will take you much further than makeup skills or a good beard. Why? Because looks attract for a night, and personalities attract for a lifetime. Lucky for all of us, whether we’re ogres or supermodels, there are ways we can improve our personality to make it more attractive. So here are 10 ways on how to have an attractive personality.
1. Be open-minded.
We’ve all got our biases and opinions – that’s life. But there’s a difference between having an opinion and being close-minded. A close-minded person thinks that they are always right and that there are no alternatives in the world to what they say. Is being stubborn an attractive quality? Not usually. Open-mindedness, on the other hand, is showing others that you’re humble enough to keep learning. No human has ever learned everything, so being open to listening to other perspectives or trying new things shows you’re constantly growing. Who wouldn’t want to be around someone like that?
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2. Encourage instead of complain.
Sometimes, life sucks. There’s no way around it. But the only reason life would suck all the time is if you think it sucks. Yeah, I said it. Attitude is everything. The next time things aren’t going your way, try to be encouraging instead of complaining – especially if things aren’t going right with the world. You never know who might need uplifting. If you use your time to support those around you and make them feel better, they’re always going to want to be around you. You’ll be like a light in the darkness to others!
3. Learn to go with the flow.
Especially for those type-A people, going with the flow might be the opposite of natural. While you may prefer to have everything planned out, there is a beauty that comes with going with the flow, and it’s called adaptability. Being adaptable means you can think on your feet and that you’re flexible in differing circumstances. People love being with someone who fits in in any situation. If it literally starts to rain on your plans, smile and come up with a plan B. There are always more options out there, and people are more likely to hang with you if you are full of ideas and opportunities they can be a part of.
4. Share your stories.
Being a good listener is key to being attractive, but you’re also going to have to share a bit about yourself to relate to others. Put your experiences and stories out in the open, but only if they’re relevant and interesting to the conversation. I’m not going to start talking about how I made 50 sales calls last week if everyone is talking about their favorite vacation experience, but I might share about the time I went paragliding in Mexico. Read the room and know when and what to share.
5. Be confident.
Most of the time we can spot a confident person from a mile away, and an unconfident person from a foot away. Confident people stand up straight, look others in the eye, smile openly, and talk to new people without worry. All of this is easier said than done, especially the last one, but it’s something you can work on to increase how attractive you are.
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6. Show interest in others.
To clarify right off the bat, showing interest in others doesn’t mean asking about them behind their back. That would just make you a Chatty Cathy or a Snoopy Sam. Go right up to someone you barely know or don’t know at all, and make small talk. Start with the basics, asking them about where they’re from and their line of work. Then, throw them a little curveball by asking them about their hobbies or interests. You’d be surprised how people light up when they’re asked about what they like to do for fun. We may not love talking about our cubicle, but we sure do love talking about the weekends. This person is going to love sharing with you so much, that they’ll recall you as more attractive than the others who only asked about their work.
7. Don’t be afraid to crack a joke.
Humor is attractive – both being funny and laughing at funny things. It makes you appear more personable, down-to-earth, and genuine. If you know a joke, don’t be afraid to share it. Of course, I’ve got to warn you that you should keep jokes clean and appropriate – particularly if you’re sharing them with someone you don’t know very well. You don’t want to offend someone or cross boundaries.
8. Be friendly to people.
When speaking to others, don’t be afraid to participate in a conversation, especially if they are new to you. This goes hand in hand with being open. First impressions really count, so make sure that person remembers you as the surprisingly friendly face in the room. Plus being social is an attractive quality.
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9. Be the bearer of good news.
Positivity attracts people. Negativity repels people away. Turn the frown upside down and share something positive with others. There’s always gray in the world, but never enough sun. If you work to be the sun in the room, your good news will attract plenty of people into your circle.
10. Listen more than you speak.
Our bodies are made with two ears and one mouth for a reason. If you listen twice as much as you speak, you’ll be surprised what you can learn about others. This key information will help you assimilate better into new groups and connect deeper with new individuals. Plus, everyone loves a good listener. And if you can recall specific details about a conversation, people will naturally be more attracted to you because your attention to detail is on point.
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Conclusion:
Overall, hopefully, you found this info useful and that you can implement a couple of these things here on your next outing. This list isn’t the end-all or be-all list, it’s just to help you get started. And of course, there are way more things you can do to have an attractive personality on the side.