Dating isn’t easy, and it probably never will be. As the saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your Prince Charming but, in this case, we are talking about frog-ettes and Princesses. The good news is that the worst possible thing that can happen when you approach a woman is that you get rejected by her but, at the end of the day, that’s nothing. Ok, it might not sound like anything, but let me clarify. The thing about dating is that you will be rejected at some point so instead of losing sleep over it, use these seven tips to learn how to handle rejection from a woman so you can move forward and move on.
1. Don’t take it personally.
The thing about women is that most of them hate hurting other people’s feelings. This means it might be just as hard for them to reject someone as it is for the person being rejected. At the end of the day, though, if they aren’t into you, they aren’t into you. Whatever you do, don’t take it personally. There is nothing wrong with you – the spark just isn’t quite there and that is okay. You may roll your eyes at this, but there really are plenty of fish in the sea. Another 3.5 billion of them!
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2. Respect her decision.
If a woman rejects you respectfully, the best thing you can do back is respecting her wishes. You might even appreciate her honesty. After all, she didn’t ghost you, lead you on, or play games with you. Wouldn’t you rather immediately know that she isn’t into you, so you can move on and find someone else versus chasing someone who isn’t the one? The sooner you respect her decision, the sooner you can meet another great woman. Plus, who knows? She might be just right around the corner.
3. Accept it and back off.
If a woman rejects you, you need to trust that she is telling the truth and not playing any games. Don’t continue to hit on her or make her feel uncomfortable. This will end badly for you both. Guys who don’t accept “no” for an answer often end up laughed at or literally in jail. Neither are situations you want to be in. Just accept that she knows what she wants and move on. After all, forcing something on someone never leads to fairy-tale endings. She knows you’re interested, so if she ever changes her mind she will know where to find you. Not that you should wait around for that, you’ve got other fish to fry. Or date, or whatever.
4. Ask for feedback.
If the woman seems very open and approachable while rejecting you and you feel comfortable, try asking for feedback. You could say something like, “I respect your honesty and I am curious if it was something I did or said or if there is something I could change in the future.” A mature woman will respect you for this and want to help. You never know, maybe you made a comment you thought was casual that threw her off. Better to know it was a bit offensive so you can learn from your mistakes. Or, on the flip side, maybe she will tell you that it was nothing you did or said, but she just didn’t feel the spark. In any case, respect her answer, thank her, and move on.
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5. Reflect on the situation.
No matter what went down between you and this woman – whether you were rejected after one date or you have been seeing a woman for a few months and feel a bit heartbroken, it is always important to reflect. Some of the best ways to reflect are to journal and basically vomit out all your emotions. Don’t actually vomit on your notebook, of course, but just describe what happened, how you feel, and the true reasons behind your feelings. Get it all out and you will feel better, but be sure to carefully think through everything that went down, don’t just complain and pout. But, at the end of the day remember the rejection may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with her, so don’t beat yourself up too hard. Just reflect on the relationship realistically, try to see all perspectives, keep working on yourself, and move forward. Reflection is a great tool, but don’t dwell on it for too long.
6. Hang with your friends.
The best thing to do anytime you are feeling down is to spend time with your friends. If you’re not a journaler, you could also reflect on the experience with a friend, but make sure to pick an emotionally-stable one. After chatting about the rejection, take a load off, have a few laughs, and remember that there’s more to this world than just one woman.
7. Remember that rejection happens to everyone.
Sometimes rejection can hurt so badly that you think you’re the only person in the world who feels the pain. The truth is that rejection happens to everyone, even pro athletes and supermodels. The bottom line is that not every woman out there is for you. In fact, very few will be soulmate-material, so be glad you found out sooner rather than later that this one wasn’t the one. Use rejection as a tool to learn from mistakes and make you stronger. Every successful person on the planet has failed and failed again before succeeding, in business, in life, and even in love.
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Conclusion:
If you’re still feeling the burn from a recent rejection, you aren’t alone. With time and perseverance, this too shall pass. Focus on the truths and silver linings to remember that the world is still your oyster. If you need more support, be sure to tell us what’s up in the comments. So there you have it, 7 tips on how to handle rejection from a woman.