Guys could just nod at each other and suddenly become bros. As long as you’re not stealing their girl, you’re fine. Becoming friends with a girl is a whole different story. It could get complicated, but, luckily for us, it is a puzzle with a solution. It’s important to understand that girls, at least generally, and again, in general, I’m not targeting specific characteristics now, require a bit more investment in friendships. Emotions are a top priority and the connection needs to be genuine or serves a purpose. A simple nod is only going to get you a weird look. If you’re wondering how to be friends with a girl, you’re in the right place. So here are 10 tips to help you get started.
1. Find a common interest.
The best way to bond with anyone is through a common interest. This could be a hobby, a TV series, a commonplace you like to visit or even a person you’re both fond of. Finding common ground is the first part of building any relationship, personal or professional. It gives you both something to talk about and something to do or be around together! When you’re talking the same language as the girl, she going to start liking you.
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2. Ask her about her hobbies.
You can’t have a friendship without conversation, and you can’t have a conversation without questions. Inquiring about her hobbies is sure to bring both a smile to her face and a conversation topic into the mix. If it’s a hobby you’re unfamiliar with, no worries – you can open your curiosity and ask her more about it to learn about something new and also to get her talking. And psychologically speaking, they could just talk and talk and feel like you two connected even though you didn’t talk much. Just by being there and listening creates the bond.
3. Introduce her to your circle.
If you’re looking for new friends, this girl may be too. Offer to introduce her to your circle of close friends, especially if they’re nearby. This expands the conversation and makes everyone feel more at home. Plus, if she connects with your friends, she’ll probably mesh well with you too.
4. Ask her for her opinion.
Most of our self-confidence comes from what other people say or think about us, from childhood into adulthood. If someone asks you for your opinion or advice on something specific, you’ll internally register that they value your thoughts. You can ask this girl about something casual, like local recommendations or what she thinks you should do about situations 1,2, or 3. What better way to make a friend than by appreciating their thoughts right from the get-go?
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5. Stay positive.
Have you ever met someone who drained all of the fun from everything? Did you immediately want to become best friends with them? Probably not, right? First impressions are irreplaceable, so make sure yours is positive. People gravitate to positive things because, well, we all just want to be happier. Put on a smile and put your best foot forward. Save your complaints and venting for your already-established friend group.
6. Tune in to the things she cares about.
You’d be surprised how much you can find out about someone if you let them talk and focus on listening. All too often we are waiting for our chance to jump into the conversation and give our two cents. Instead, focus on the things this girl seems to be passionate about and ask her to elaborate on them. And, remember to pay attention! This is really similar to asking her about her favorite hobbies but is a little bit deeper.
7. Offer to help her.
A helping hand is a friendly hand. Most people could always use help in some way. This could be offering to connect her to a contact you have, sending over a resource you have access to, or teaching her something she would benefit from. Wherever you see an opportunity during your conversation with her, offer to help out. Whether she accepts or not, she’s sure to remember you as a friendly face. Plus, you can always give her your contact information if she were to change her mind in the future!
8. Add her on social media.
You could have the best conversation in the world and really hit it off, but if you don’t grab each other’s contact information to connect, later on, you might as well be talking to a bird and saying bye to it. Nowadays, social media seems to be a go-to when making a new contact. Phone numbers are saved for more formal situations, although they are also an option later on. As a bonus, adding her on social media like Instagram, Facebook or TikTok will also give you insight into how she is in her everyday life.
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9. Say yes to invitations.
Friendships are make-or-break when it comes to hanging out. If this girl opens up with an invitation to anything or anywhere, take her up on it. It might be something general, like her saying, “We should go hiking sometime!” Or, it could be specific as to meet up on a certain day. No matter the case, do your best to say yes to the invite. If you say no, you might not get another shot!
10. Follow up with her.
You’ve met, you’ve chatted, and you’ve hit it off. Now it’s time to use the username or number you’ve received to reach back out to her. You can wait a day or two but try not to postpone too long. Follow up with her about getting together, maybe even to try a hobby that you both have in common! This will be your next step into establishing a friendship with this girl that lasts longer than just one conversation. Follow-ups are really important in life because they won’t know who you are if you don’t talk to them.
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Conclusion:
Overall, I hope these tips are helpful in finding a girl to be your friend. If you stack multiple tips together and talk to at least 5 new girls a day, I’m sure, you’ll find a girl to be friends with. I know 5 may sound a lot, but this all depends on how bad you want a girl to be your friend. If not, that’s cool, I’m just trying to help. So there you have it, 10 tips on how to be friends with a girl.