Back in the good old days, women would wait for men to ask them on a date. The guy would probably meet her parents first, and everything would be pretty monitored. Things became official pretty quick and after dating for a while – very seriously, of course – the same steps would be followed in asking for her hand in marriage. You all know the deal, and you all know that times have changed. Dating nowadays is nothing like it was backed then, and all of the stereotypical steps and gender roles have gone out the window. Nowadays, it’s totally normal for a girl to make the first move, or even to initiate a relationship. If you’re thinking about making the move instead, to say, “I like you,” and just want a little confirmation from him, well, here are 9 signs he’s waiting for you to make a move.
1. He asks you when you’re going to hang out (but doesn’t asks you to hang out).
If you often hear this guy asking you when you’re going to see each other, you might think he’s a dud for not straight-up asking you to hang. While that would avoid the beating around the bush back-and-forth, it’s pretty obvious that he is interested in seeing you, but he isn’t ballsy enough to ask you bluntly. I know some girls or people would be like, “If he’s beating around the bush, then I would just leave him, he’s not a man blah blah blah.” But hey, maybe he got his reasons.
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2. He acts like you two are a couple in front of friends.
This is one of the signs he wants you to make the first move or he is waiting for youto make the first move. If he’s waiting for you to make a move, chances are you’ve both had enough time to get to know each other’s friends. Maybe you even share the same one. No matter the case, he has no trouble showcasing that he’s into you in front of everyone. In fact, your friends probably already assume that he will always be the one standing next to you or volunteering to walk or drive you home as long as he has the chance to pick you up and drop you off. But again, he doesn’t confess to you, because he’s just scared of ruining the relationship. And this is common when you have a relationship that is close and scared the relationship might be ruined because he said those 3 words to you.
3. He doesn’t try to get with anyone else.
If he’s just an average guy, he can totally find someone quickly, but does he though? There are options out there for everyone, and it’s just a matter if he wants to stick around or to bounce to someone else. But if you notice him always with you, and not even trying to get with anyone else, then he’s probably just waiting for you to realize it so you can make a move and probably ask him out one day. That would be nice, right?
4. He pulls you in for overly long hugs.
High-fives are for pals. Hugs are for friends. Hugs longer than 5 seconds are for friends with secret intentions. If this dude hugs you more than 5 seconds long, there is extra feelings hiding in that hug. Five seconds sounds like nothing, but I dare you to hug your friend for more than 5 seconds long and don’t say anything. Go ahead, try. It’ll feel weird because they usually just pull away after one second, right? Then anything after that, will be followed by an awkward, “okayyyy.” Anyway, if he’s giving you long hugs, he’s still waiting for you to make a move, it’s one of the good signs.
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5. He tries to please you.
A guy who is waiting on you to make a move will be one of the most accommodating guys out there. He wants you to feel comfortable around him, and he will do everything he can to accomplish that goal. He’ll check in often to see if you’re ok, and if you need anything he will be the first to run and grab it for you. He knows you won’t be making any moves if you’re in a bad mood about something, so most of the time, he’ll be Mr. Good Mood, trying to satisfy you. If you know what I mean. Haha
6. He tries to impress you.
From bizarre jokes to mentioning his most recent achievements, this guy is going to work on leaving a good impression. He wants you to see all he is capable of in the hopes that it will be the push you need in order to finally make your move. It’s obvious that he’s working on impressing you so the question is… is it working?
7. He gets weird when you ask why he’s single.
This guy isn’t up-front enough to tell you he’s into you, so he’s not going to be brave enough to tell you that he’s waiting on you either. Don’t be surprised when you don’t get a straight-up answer from him while asking why he’s single. If he gets all awkward and tries to avoid the subject, you have a pretty good shot that it’s because he’s talking to the very person he wishes he was in a relationship with. And of course, that person is you. This is also one of the good signs to tell if he’s waiting for you to make a move.
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8. He listens more than he talks.
Few people do this in general, so pay attention to his communication style around you. If you’re in a group setting, he will be giving you the most attention out of all the group members. His focus will seem to hone in on you whenever you mention something, and he’ll ask follow-up questions, specifically to you. The best part? He’ll actually listen to you and remember your answers! So, pay close attention, if he actually remembers those details.
9. You feel the chemistry in the air!
Some signs are as invisible as air but as strong as hurricane winds. We’ve all heard of “chemistry” or feeling “a spark” with someone, and this is something you will be sure about when you’re around this guy. Things flow naturally and stepping into the next step with him seems easy. And if that’s the case, maybe you both are just comfortable with each other, but no one is saying anything. And if you are watching this, maybe you should say something first. I bet if you do, it’ll be life-changing. Maybe.
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Conclusion:
Overall, there are many reasons why a guy is holding back and not making the first move. He might be shy, he might be a player that’s why he’s comfortable with you. Who knows. But you should start to know how he feels about you if he’s checking most of these signs off your list. And if he does and you actually confess to him, let me know. So there you have it 9 signs he’s waiting for you to make a move.