Have you ever asked yourself, “Why is this girl acting differently now on text?” There’s always a reason. And one of those reasons could be a test. People test people all the time. It’s just to understand the person and how they are in general, but it doesn’t 100% accurately define that person. Like taking a test at school. One test doesn’t really define you, but it could get a sense of you. But anyway, now that you know that and you’re on here, you probably want to know if a girl is actually testing you. So here are 9 signs a girl is testing you over text.
1. She texts the word “Fine.”
If she texts you, “I’m fine,” but then explodes afterward, then she’s definitely not fine. A girl saying this is not happy with the situation. Whatever you did or said before the “fine” did not sit well. This is your chance to make it right. Rethink your previous actions and either change your plans or apologize if needed. So, when you see a text saying that she’s fine. She’s basically testing you to see how you can handle the situation.
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2. She gives you the three little dots…
The three little dots that sometimes end sentences are called an ellipsis. If you see an ellipsis, think of it like three little sucker punches to wake you up to the test you’re facing. Those three dots are opening the floor for you to answer, elaborate, or clarify. Her thought is either open-ended or lacks detail because she is waiting on you before deciding if she’s for or against whatever you’re about to say after that.
3. She double texts.
Healthy conversations have a good flow, going back and forth. Once a girl starts throwing you double texts, or even triple or quadruple ones, her mind is racing and you’re the reason for it. Now, if her double texts are lighthearted and normal, this doesn’t apply. I’m talking about double texts that seem serious, passive-aggressive or include multiple questions. Answer her truthfully and answer her immediately so she doesn’t start wandering off to something crazy. This is one of the good signs that a girl is testing you over text.
4. She doesn’t text at all.
If you feel weird that this girl hasn’t texted you back or texted you at all, it’s not just weird in your imagination. When it’s strange that she hasn’t texted you, she’s probably not texting you on purpose. She’s either mad at you and is waiting for an apology or she’s just waiting to see if you think to text her first. In both cases, you need to try to re-establish communication. That is if you still care. It’s a test to see if you actually care about her.
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5. The one-word response.
A girl responding to your detailed text with an “Ok/cool/yes/no” or any one-word response is a red flag, especially if she was previously texting you normally, full sentences. If she does this, she has suddenly put her guard up and there’s a reason for it. If you can’t tell what it is from the conversation, try to ask her about how she’s feeling and why. Be persistent if she says she’s fine…She’s doing this for a reason. Again, bruh don’t come at me, I’m just trying to help you out.
6. The guilt trip.
One of the big tests a girl could throw through text is a guilt trip. This usually happens when you did something that you shouldn’t, bail on her, or have plans to do something she didn’t expect, like spend the whole weekend with someone else when she was hoping to see you. She may try to make you feel bad for doing so. While it’s important to have your alone time and friend time, make sure you consider her feelings on this one before proceeding.
7. She apologies for texting you in the first place.
You might find it weird if a girl starts a conversation with you then apologies for doing so. She might even try to tell you to go on with your day and ignore her messages. If so, why message you at all then? Well, it’s a test. The girl obviously wants to talk to you, but she isn’t sure you want the same thing. This gives you the option of either just leaving her hanging or if you do text her back, then she can probably confirm that you like her enough to continue texting her. Yeah, I know this is unusual, but mostly shy girls would do this.
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8. The over-thinker/over-analyzer.
You may find yourself tested by a girl who is overly cautious or timid. These girls have second thoughts about most things that they say and often get paranoid that they said or did something wrong. Wanting to preserve the potential relationship, they’ll write long paragraphs explaining themselves and/or asking you a lot of questions. This mainly sprouts from insecurities. Your best bet is to comfort her and give her reassurance that you’ll be there for her. This will test your loyalty.
9. The bail-out option.
Another golden test you might mistakenly fail is the bail-out option. For this test to happen, you have to have some sort of future plan with this girl. Maybe you’re planning on getting down together and dancing next Friday, or video calling each other later tonight. Whatever the plan is, this girl is going to give you the option to cancel, if you prefer. She may say you’re welcome to leave to hang with your friends or do something more fun instead. If that happens, do NOT take the bait. Do not fall for it. If you prefer to do something else without her and you both already had plans together, you’re going to fail this test immediately. This is to see if you like her enough to do boring stuff together. So yeah be smart about it. But now you know.
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Conclusion:
Overall, there’s way more test that girls could do via text. These are just a few and popular ones. I know these could be very toxic in a relationship if they continue to happen over and over again. But it all comes down to testing basic elements such as loyalty, trust, and commitment. And if you do spot a girl doing this to you, let me know or let me know what other test I’ve missed. Hope this help those who are frequent texters. So there you have it 9 signs a girl is testing you over text.