Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s the little things?” This is about how small moments and actions make more of a difference than showy grand gestures. While this phrase rings true across friendships, romances, and cultures, many of us are focused on the big things and overlook the little ones that keep relationships strong. That’s why today we’re talking about 8 little things women do that guys secretly love – something we just gathered from 8 different guys.
1. She plays with his hair.
You’ve probably seen a woman scratching, massaging, or playing with a guy’s hair before. The guy likely had a faraway look in his eye and was either extremely relaxed or almost falling asleep. What makes this act so great? Well, the scalp is actually full of hundreds of thousands of nerve points, and many of these nerves connect directly to the pleasure center of the brain called the amygdala. Combine this with the fact that many women have long nails that allow for an even better head rub and you’ve got yourself one loveable action.
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2. She checks in on him.
Women have always had this extra sense of care and affection. You could attribute it to nature or societal norms, but there’s nothing quite like a woman who cares about you. One of the best examples of this is when a woman is worried about a guy and checks in on him. She could just shoot him a message to see if he’s alright or pop by to take care of him when he’s feeling sick. A guy will feel over the moon knowing that he matters to this woman, and he’ll truly appreciate the effort she puts into making sure he’s OK.
3. She gets excited to see him.
If you enter a room and someone jumps up and down with excitement, you’re going to feel pretty good about yourself. You may think, “Wow, I’m that great to that person?” This is the same thing that happens when a girl gets excited whenever she sees a certain guy. It makes him feel special and pretty darn awesome, so he’s going to love it every single time.
4. She takes care of him when he’s overwhelmed.
No matter who I’ve dated, I’ve always made it a point to relax them when they get overwhelmed. Work, finances, and life, in general, can get crazy sometimes, and I know that if I was overwhelmed, I would want the same from my partner. Not only that, but guys tend to have more pressure in our society to “be a man,” “act tough,” and not let their feelings out. This leads to a build-up of internal emotion that could be detrimental to their mental health, so helping them relax in times of trial is gold.
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5. She hangs out with him au natural.
In a world where women’s bodies and faces are constantly faker and faker, there’s something to be said about a woman who hangs out with a guy in her natural state. No crazy contouring makeup, no fake eyelashes, no hair extensions – just a natural face and a body in comfy clothes. This situation is also ideal if you two are hanging out at home or doing something outdoorsy. I know this isn’t the easiest thing to do for most girls, myself included. I only save the no-makeup look for a guy I’m really comfortable around. He gets to see and appreciate the real you and you get to show that you’re comfortable enough with him and with yourself to do so.
6. She sleeps in his arms.
A man secretly goes wild for a cuddly girl who falls asleep in his arms. This shows she sees him as a safe space for her to rest; not to mention that cuddling promotes feelings of happiness, relaxation, and improved mood while lowering feelings of depression and stress. If he moves you away once you fall asleep, though, don’t get offended – the poor guy’s arm probably fell asleep, so he can’t be your pillow forever!
7. She asks for his help.
Asking someone for help shows that you trust them enough to assist in the situation and that you’re open to asking for help. Both of these things are positive in the eyes of guys so long as you don’t ask them for help with everything – that would just make it seem like you’re helpless. If the guy knows about cars and your car is acting up, ask him for his opinion. If he’s good with gadgets and your computer gets a virus, ask him for his thoughts. Asking him for assistance in his area of expertise is sure to make him feel proud and happy to help.
8. She shows her appreciation for him.
Women tend to be more vocal than men. One study found that women speak almost three times more words than men daily! This is why a woman is also more likely to say – out loud – the things she appreciates about a guy. I make a point of doing this in my own relationship because I’ve seen the positive effects it brings firsthand. In response, my boyfriend even started being more vocally appreciative back, and it has made our relationship that much better! Hearing these words of affirmation are pretty powerful. It’s been shown to increase relationship strength and is used as a predictor of whether or not a couple will remain together.
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Conclusion:
There are plenty of additional little things that women do that guys love, but these 8 top the charts. If you’re a woman, have you been doing any of these things lately? If you’re a guy, which little thing is your favorite? So there you have it 8 little things women do that guys secretly love.