INFPs, also known as mediators on the Myers Briggs personality assessments, have a lot of hidden talent. Their reserved nature makes it seem like they’re this timid little hamster quivering in the corner, but in reality, they’re a bouncing rabbit jumping through the grass and evading any predators.
What do I mean by that? Well, INFPs encompass a lot of things, but being extroverted, sensing, thinking, and judging isn’t them. Since they’re introverted, intuitive, feeling, and perceiving – AKA INFP – they comprehend certain details about life that other personality types may miss. Here are the 6 things only INFPs will understand, but will never tell you.
1. They are often destined to be alone.
INFPs sometimes find themselves wandering down the solitary path, not out of loneliness, but because their personality type is so rare. When you’re unique to almost a fault, it’s hard to find others with whom you can really connect. Plus, since they’re so empathetic, mediators need positive relationships that don’t suck their life’s energy out of them. It’s in their best interest to be choosy, for their own mental health and well-being. When they first meet you, they may feel you out before they jump right into being your BFF, so don’t take it personally. They know their limits and loneliness, even if they don’t talk about them out loud.
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2. Superficial relationships aren’t worth it.
If there’s one personality type that thrives on being true to themselves, it’s the mediator. Since their ideal self is their authentic self, they have a good radar for finding authenticity and meaningful relationships. INFPs don’t need small talk or empty connections. They don’t need to hear about the latest trends, shopping, or brainless TV series – they need sustenance and soulful connections. When they do find someone that they connect with, though, it’s game over. Believing in the power of people, beauty, and true love, a mediator will try their hardest to maintain their relationships – even if it hurts them in the process. Again, as long as this relationship is deep, that is.
3. Empathy can be more harmful than good.
INFPs possess a unique ability to understand and share the emotions of others, making them the ultimate emotional support buddies. Even so, they’re not blind to the potential pitfalls of their superpower. The deep connection they establish with people’s feelings can sometimes leave them emotionally drained. It’s like they’re carrying an extra backpack full of others’ emotions, and occasionally, it becomes a heavy burden. They’re the healers who need healing, reminding us that even the most empathetic souls need self-care.
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4. The fear of rejection is real.
Mediators are the dreamers, the idealists, and the romantics. It sounds very wishy-washy and grandiose, but beneath that dreamy exterior lies a vulnerability they’re cautious about revealing. If you’ve ever told someone one of your dreams and had them laugh or tell you it was impossible, you know about the vulnerability I’m describing. The fear of rejection can feel like stepping onto a wobbly bridge over the Grand Canyon. Their heart-on-sleeve disposition can make rejection sting deeper for them, triggering a retreat into their safe haven. That being said, remember that if they seem hesitant to open up, it’s not because they lack courage; it’s because they’re protecting their tender hearts.
5. Some dreams are too big.
This personality type is a king of a castle way up in the clouds. What I mean by that is that INFP personalities have large-scale visions that make the average Joe shake their head. They love to spend their free time daydreaming, imagining, or creating situations that may not be materialized yet… but there’s a twist. Mediators are also pragmatic enough to understand that not every vision can materialize. Many of their ideas may very well seem unreachable, making them feel helpless or worse – useless. Is this always the truth? Definitely not. Many people achieve huge dreams no one thought possible with persistence and planning. Some INFPs will and many others won’t, but all of them will one day face a dream that truly isn’t realistic. It hurts them to realize and hurts much more to say, so you won’t hear them chat about it – although you may see that sad, disappointed look in their eyes when the realization comes.
6. Emotions are intense – more intense than most of us know.
For an INFP, life is an emotional amusement park that never closes. These individuals experience many emotions very deeply. Like, very, very deeply – and not just their own emotions. With such a high level of empathy, INFP feelings are stitched to the narratives of others, so they feel what those closest to them feel. Unfortunately, this could change their moods altogether as they absorb the negative tales and perspectives of those around them. Many may become overwhelmed by all of the wrongs they hear about – especially since others use them for their great listening skills and support. Combine that with the fact that they people-please in their relationships, and you have a recipe for an emotional disaster. They won’t tell you, but trust me – they will suffer through it.
Conclusion:
When it comes to INFPs, a lot is bubbling beneath the surface. They understand the power of alone time, the uselessness of fake connections, and how they can soak up others’ vibes like sponges. The more you know about an INFP, the more you can learn about either yourself or someone in your own life. Express positivity, support their dreams, and respect their boundaries to grow an awesome friendship or relationship with the mediator in your life. As always, thanks for watching.