The INTJ personality type – also known as the architect – is one of the rarest of the 16 Myers-Briggs personalities. Perhaps it’s their fierce independence or their quick minds that keep them a step away from others, but architects tend to struggle to find individuals who can keep up with their nonstop analysis of life. If an INTJ finally does set their sights on you, you must be something special; but we need to be sure that’s the case so you don’t jump the gun and make a mountain out of a molehill. Here are the 5 signs an INTJ is attracted to you.
1. They are lightly critical of you.
This sign sounds weird. Maybe even a bit backward, doesn’t it? Let me explain. INTJs are … peculiar. As mentioned, they’re one of the rarest personalities, which means they stand out among the masses. This has both its good and bad sides. Architects are strategic, rational, and analytical. They may make amazing engineers, researchers, and scientists… but this doesn’t always translate well to love. It’s great to analyze, critique, and enact change in a lab, but hearts don’t always respond positively to such actions. Because they’re always looking at how to make things better and more efficient, architects may erroneously use this approach when it comes to other people in their lives. If you’ve managed to connect with an architect already, you may start to notice that they’ll nitpick things about you or bring up ways you can improve. This is just the way architects look at life, and they may not realize that it isn’t very effective when it comes to others’ emotions. Take it with a grain of salt. Of course, this doesn’t mean to take any abuse from anyone and you should definitely set your boundaries; just know that if an INTJ likes you, you’ll probably hear at least a little about how they can help you become the best version of yourself.
2. They compliment your intelligence.
Architects value a good brain way more than a good booty. You heard me right; intellect is key when it comes to connecting with an INTJ. Their minds are always running 100 miles a minute, and they need someone who can keep up with them in conversation, thoughts, and plans. When someone with this personality type openly compliments your intelligence, you can bet your big brain that they are starting to like and value you. Just don’t be surprised if their comment comes out frank, since they are the opposite of emotional. They won’t tell you that you’re the smartest person they’ve dated but they’ll tell you that you’re intelligent in a flat tone; it’s just the way they roll.
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3. They are brutally honest with you.
INTJs have a reputation for their no-nonsense approach to life, and this extends to their romantic interests. If they’re attracted to you, they won’t sugarcoat things. They’ll give you their unfiltered opinions, even if it means pointing out your flaws or suggesting you reconsider that questionable life choice.
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Anyways, when it comes to the architect, you’ll find their honesty refreshing, although it might sting a little at times. Even so, remember that it’s their way of showing they care. So, if they casually mention that your choice of Hawaiian pizza is a shame to all humans, take it as a sign of affection.
4. You connect best over shared interests.
INTJs are not the most emotionally expressive bunch. Since they won’t be gushing about their feelings towards you and they may not know how to respond if you say that you like them, you’ll have to search for their love within your shared interests. Shared hobbies and activities are where INTJs connect with others the most; especially someone they crush on. If you find yourself deep into a conversation with an architect about your shared love of physics, your mutual interest in AI, or some other topic you two overlap in, congratulations! They’re attracted to you. Think of it like finding an intellectual soulmate; brains over booty… I mean, beauty.
5. They find you interesting.
Architects are curious creatures, so if they’re into you, they’ll want to know all about you as if you were their own personal puzzle to solve. Don’t be weirded out if they ask you probing questions about your life, dreams, and beliefs. When an INTJ goes out of their way to understand and appreciate your uniqueness, it’s a clear indicator that they’ve got their sights set on you as more than just a casual acquaintance.
Conclusion:
If you’re convinced that you’ve got an INTJ’s romantic attention, consider yourself the intellectual light of their heart… or maybe their brain, I’m still not sure. While their compliments may come out as blunt as a hammer, the attraction is real. Embrace their quirks, engage in deep conversation, and enjoy the fact that you’ve captured the attention of one of life’s rarest and most fascinating personalities. You rock!