If you’re casually dating a guy or simply interested in him, you’ll need to look for signs he wants something serious, if that’s what you’re looking for. If he isn’t throwing you at least six of these signs, he’s probably only interested in something casual with you, so you might not want to waste your time or maybe you do. Who knows haha. So here are 12 signs he wants something serious with you.
1. He tells you he isn’t seeing anyone else.
If this guy has made it clear to you that he isn’t seeing anyone else – and he doesn’t want to – he is hoping to hear the same thing back from you. This is the same thing as him asking, “What are we?” Your response to this is going to tell him what he needs to know before taking the next step with you. If you tell him that you are in the same situation, you’ve both concluded that you’re exclusive and like it that way. If this wasn’t what you expected and you like seeing other people, it may be the time to let him down easy.
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2. He introduces you to his family.
Introductions to brothers and sisters are chill. But introductions to mom and dad are serious – especially if it’s a formal introduction over something like dinner or at a family party. If you get interrogated by the parents, it’s an even bigger sign that he’s serious about you and that they want to analyze his choice. It sounds scary, but, hey, now you know he’s serious. One of the good signs to tell if he wants something serious or not.
3. He invests his time with you.
Time is money and when you’re a working adult this phrase seems even truer. That’s why when you hang out with someone, you’re really investing your time in that person and relationship. If he didn’t like you, he’d invest his time in that new HBO series or at the gym instead. If he dedicates a significant part of his free time to hanging out with you, he is trying to build a foundation for something more serious.
4. He starts talking about his relationship goals.
Unless he’s telling you he wants to stay single forever, a guy talking about his relationship goals is looking to either give you positive information or get information out of you. If he tells you what he’s looking for, he wants to see your response to gauge if you match the criteria. Your responses are crucial here, so it’s probably a good idea, to be honest.
5. He makes you a priority.
At the end of the day, people make time for what’s important to them. The whole, “I don’t have time for a relationship” doesn’t make a lot of sense if they are serious. No matter what happens in life, people can and will find time for things that are important. If the President has time keep his job and family, the average Joe can definitely find time if he wants to. That’s why a guy will make you a priority when he wants something serious with you.
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6. He asks you about what you want in the future.
This sign is when a guy asks you about your future plans, especially around work, where you’ll live, and how you want to form a family. You can’t have a serious relationship with someone in the United States if you plan to live in Japan for the rest of your life. This guy wants to see if your plans could match, and now is a great time to explore both of your visions for the future.
7. He changes his life to help you fit into it.
When a guy molds his life to better fit you in it, you’ll see it through the little things. He might keep some of your stuff at his place so that you’re more comfortable when you come over, or he could choose restaurants that fit your dietary restrictions when he makes plans with you. This consideration shows you that you fit well into his life and vice versa.
8. He never calls you a friend.
A guy who wants something serious with you will never call you a friend because the last thing he wants is to be friend-zoned. He may say he’s never connected with anyone the way he connects with you, but he will steer clear of calling you a bestie to make sure you can see him in a romantic light.
9. He puts in more effort on dates.
Long gone are the days of Netflix and chill, or not. But this guy puts thought behind the dates. Whether they’re unique activities or cool dinners at new places, he shows up looking great and makes sure it’s a fun date.
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10. He asks you to be his date for formal occasions.
Speaking of dates, he could ask you to be his for a special occasion like a wedding, office party, or family get-together. These types of dates mean you will be meeting a whole lot of people from his life, and he is comfortable enough to introduce you! And that sounds pretty serious to me.
11. He leaves you alone with his stuff.
If he’s left you alone in his room, house, or anywhere with his phone, this shows he’s serious about you. He doesn’t have anything to hide and he wants you both to be open and comfortable around each other. It’s a good sign that he’s serious.
12. He works through issues with you.
If you two have a disagreement – which probably doesn’t happen often – he works through it with you. You don’t feel like the fight will make you guys stop seeing each other. Even if you’re not on the same page, you are confident in your bond and relationship. Not only does this make it easier to resolve issues, but it also calms your emotions to think more rationally and empathetically. This produces the ideal feeling for a healthy long-term relationship – security.
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Conclusion:
Overall, I just want to emphasize this. Serious people will make time for you, period. They won’t be a flake nor make empty promises. If they start doing that, then it’s really time to question their seriousness because if they can do it a couple of times, then they can do it again and again. Basically, their words don’t have any weight to them. So, do let me know if this person is serious with you or not. So there you have it 12 signs he wants something serious with you.