So, there’s this guy. He might really like you or even love you, but something is holding him back from being all in. I got some good reasons why. So let’s dive into the 10 signs he is afraid to fall for you. From his internal fears to external factors, it’s time to figure out what, exactly, is holding this guy back from jumping into your loving arms.
1. His last break-up or relationship was toxic.
If you touched a stove once and it burned you, you probably won’t do it again when it’s hot. Or maybe you get so traumatized that you wouldn’t want to be near one. Now that’s just an exaggeration. And in a relationship, sometimes when they got burned so bad. Pun intended. They might want to take some time to recoup from their last relationship. Now, this all depends on the person. It could take months for them to heal or maybe years. And if you know that his last relationship was toxic, then that’s probably why he’s not jumping into your loving arms just yet.
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2. He just got out of a long-term relationship.
If the guy’s last relationship was normal but ended recently, he needs some time before starting a new one. Whether he’s getting over his ex or just reevaluating what he wants in life, the time between relationships is important for both self-confidence and clarity. Living a bit of single life before getting cuffed again is a way for him to grow and learn more about himself, and you also benefit through this by letting him get out his crazy single experiences before being together. Enjoy being friends for now and getting to know each other better as he works on self-improvement before you two start anything serious. It doesn’t hurt, right? By the way, this is one of the common signs he is afraid to fall for you.
3. He can’t seem to control his emotions.
A guy with rollercoaster emotions is one of two things. First, he might be crazy. Or, second, he could get emotional only around topics related to you. For example, he might get jealous or moody easily if you start talking to another guy. This shows he obviously has feelings for you, but he hasn’t dealt with them nor learned how to show them properly yet. And getting into a relationship like that probably isn’t ideal for anyone.
4. He is afraid of rejection.
If you and this guy are two peas in a pod, he has no relationship baggage, and you know he’s ready to date someone, he might just be afraid of being rejected. Whether this comes from long-held insecurity or he’s just lacking confidence, there are only two ways to move him past this. One – you could ask him out yourself. Or, two – you could straight-up tell him you’d love to date him if he asked. You’ve got to be blunt with the rejection-fearing guys or else they’ll get stuck in their fear forever because, in their minds, they are thinking that if you say, “no,” then the friendship and relationship will never be the same. It happened to me, and that’s how I found out.
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5. He overanalyzes everything.
Another sign a guy is afraid to fall for you is if he’s the overanalyzing type. He’s the one always going back and forth about every situation. His name should be Mr. What-If because that seems to keep him bouncing between feelings and avoiding making important decisions. This type of overanalyzing can be related to anxieties, so this is something he will need to work on personally. If you can, talk it out with him and see if it can help reduce analysis paralysis.
6. He thinks he won’t be able to provide for you.
Another big insecurity that can stop a guy from being with you is feeling like he can’t give you what you need. This could be financially, emotionally, or even physically. These fears can come from past traumas, parental figures, childhood bullying, or a simple lack of confidence. His ego could come into play as well. If you’re willing to help him work past these thoughts, you’ll need to invest a lot of time and patience into the friendship. Maybe then he’ll change his mind about you.
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7. He feels he won’t be able to make time for you.
If a guy keeps telling you how busy he is, you’ve got to accept that it is what it is. He’s being honest enough to let you know that he literally does not have the time to invest in a relationship. If you’re also a busy bee, you might be able to understand this and work with it. Plenty of couples only see each other when they can pencil the time in. But, if you’re the average person who likes to spend more weekly time with their boo, this relationship might just not be in the cards. He might like you, but he knows that it won’t last because his time is limited. Sometimes guys value their career more than others.
8. He thinks you won’t like him.
This is a sign that might come from someone you don’t know very well. You weren’t good friends before he developed feelings for you, so he feels like you might not like his true self. We all have skeletons in the closet or unattractive tendencies. This fix could be as easy as getting to know each other better and actually talking more. The more you both talk, the better you both will understand each other.
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9. He thinks he doesn’t deserve you.
A guy may comment that you’re out of his league physically, financially, or intelligence-wise if he feels inferior to you. Another reason he might say this is because he’s made some past errors that he feels define him. The thing is, you know this guy and you’re the one who decides whether he’s worth dating or not. Remind him of this and tell him everything you like about him to see if this shifts his mindset.
10. Other forces are preventing him from falling for you.
Sometimes life gets in the way of love. It doesn’t have to be as dramatic as Romeo and Juliet, but his family might be pushing him to either stay single or date someone they prefer. Other factors like friends, future plans, or religion could also play a part in stopping you both from being together. At the end of the day, it’s his decision if those factors are more important than shooting his shot with you. And of course, you don’t want to force it because when things backfire, you’ll be the one to blame, which is never good. This is one of the common signs he is afraid to fall for you.
Conclusion:
Overall, guys do need a little push and some signs from you to give them the confidence to move forward. And yes, I get it there will be other factors in play and it’ll take time. But you know what. If he’s taking forever to even make a move, then it’ll be his loss because I’m pretty sure if you just go out, there will be other guys who will like you without any problems. So there you have it 10 signs he is afraid to fall for you.