Whether you put on makeup or shave your beard before going out, you care about what others think of you. It’s only natural – humans instinctually want to be liked by other humans so that they feel like they belong. That’s why, apart from looking good – which, you do, by the way – there are behaviors that make you more attractive to others too. So, let’s go over 10 of these behaviors on how you can attract more people in your everyday life. And stay ‘till the very end for one powerful bonus secret to increase your overall attractiveness.
1. Ask questions.
When talking to someone, especially if you’ve just met them, it’s normal to speak a lot about yourself. Instead of babbling on about your interests, try showing interest by asking the other person things about themselves. There’re studies out there that observed how people reacted to strangers asking them questions. It found that people who asked more open-ended questions were rated as more attractive by the other person in the conversation. When we ask questions, we show that we’re both listening in and interested in the other person. And, let’s be real, we all love a person who shows interest in us.
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2. Speak with purpose.
Speaking with purpose means that you think about what you’re going to say before you say it. If your comment won’t add to the conversation, you choose to keep it to yourself. Purposeful speakers make good public speakers because they know what to say and how to say it to capture their audience’s attention. You remember the people who delivered powerful quotes, not the ones who rambled on about things that didn’t matter.
3. Remember the smaller details.
If you’re speaking with purpose and asking a lot of questions, you’re going to hear a lot of details. Make some mental notes of things that are important to other people. Maybe they get excited telling you about an upcoming event or they seemed worried when they mentioned a presentation they were putting together. No matter what the detail is, be sure to follow up with it the next time you speak to that person. They will be both shocked and honored that you remembered, and you’re instantly seen as more caring and attractive.
4. Look up.
When entering a room, speaking to others, or standing alone, look up. No, not directly up at the ceiling. Just keep your chin up and make sure you’re looking at eye level and not on the ground or at your phone or hands. Looking up shows others that you are open and inviting and it emphasizes confidence, whereas looking down or at your phone appears to be a sign of insecurity or unfriendliness.
5. Be kind.
If you’ve ever heard someone say that they liked someone because they were mean to them, that person might have some personal issues to sift through. Unless you’re mean or bitter, most of us like other people because they’re nice. Be kind by using your manners, checking up on people, and helping others when you can. Your acts of kindness will be remembered far more than your words or appearance. I have a post on that if you want to check it out.
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6. Speak positively.
There’s a reason motivational speakers fill up auditoriums. People want to be uplifted. Nobody wants you to rain on their parade – they want the opposite. If you put things into a positive perspective and encourage others, they’ll be drawn to you like a moth to a light. Now I’m not saying you have to be a motivational speaker to captivate people, you just have to be uplifting.
7. Take care of your appearance.
Speaking of ugly, hairy moths, when’s the last time you brushed your hair or shaved? Attraction can happen through behaviors, but no one is going to try to talk to you if you have bad odor and look like a bruised banana. Take a shower, put a little thought behind your outfit, and take care of your personal hygiene. This includes brushing those teeth and popping a breath mint now and then. Again, it’s the habits that make you attractive.
8. Be confident.
Various studies have shown that confident people are viewed as more attractive and more trustworthy. If you’re confident in yourself, others will also feel more confident around you. For those who struggle with confidence, take these small steps to stand out. Stand up straight when walking, speak up when talking, think before you speak, and say some daily affirmations to highlight your positive qualities.
Check out: How to love yourself and be confident
9. Smile and laugh more often.
Smiling and laughing make us attractive and it doesn’t take science for us to understand why. Smiles and laughter are associated with happiness, and happy people are more attractive. Next time you’re in a room full of strangers, smile at one, I’m sure they’ll smile back at you. When someone tells a joke, and it’s actually funny, then really live out your laugh. The more you do this, the happier you’ll be, and the more attractive you’ll get. Because at the end of the day, I don’t think angry and sad people will attract a lot of people to them. I’m just saying.
10. Be on time.
Showing up late is basically telling the other person that their time isn’t important to you. Unless you have a valid excuse, like some emergency or an accident, you should make an effort to show up on time whenever you have plans. This displays responsibility and consideration for the other people you’re meeting. By being a person of your word, you’re showing your dependability and are instantly more attractive to those you hang out with.
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Conclusion:
Since you’re still with me and didn’t click away, here’s a bonus one that’ll make everyone go crazy for you in the long run. Whenever you make promises and you actually fulfill your promises, this will dramatically increase your likeability, attractiveness, trustworthiness, and loyalty. Girls will melt for you and guys will respect you. And if you didn’t remember anything else in this post, make sure to remember to keep and fulfill your promises. So there you have it 10 behaviors that will make you more attractive to others.